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Hi, just found this site - hoping to find some help in some pretty hard times.
4 months ago found my wife had been cheating on me for the second time in 12 months, so I decided to move out back to my family who are approx 70 miles away. I was married for 8 yrs and have 2 little one (4 and 6). I currently see them every weekend by driving up and down the m6 and bringing them back (280mile every weekend). However the ex-wife is saying that seeing them just at weekends isnt good enough and wants me to have them during the week as well. This is fairly impractical with me working and schooling etc. She has said legally I will be forced to move back closer to the family home so that I will have them on a midweek. She said she has been backed up someone who works at the school of my two children - and that the woman in the school has said that it's the law to have the kids at least 50% of the week. I can't find anything on the internet to suggest this is right. The only conclusion I have seen is that having the kids during the week is upsetting her mid week dating habits and bringing boyfriends back. I am fairly concerned if it is right that, someone ( I have been told who it is ) at the school is telling my ex wife this. As an aside I am still paying the mortage and bills on the family house. Any confirmation or non confirmation of the above will be most appreciated.
hi,
what your ex has told you is wrong. you can not be forced to move closer to her. there is nothing in law that states you have to have kids 50% of the time. some dads are fighting tooth and nail through the courts to achieve 50% access to their kids and there's no guarantee of getting that. it is down to your availability. if you went through the courts, they can not compel you to see the kids. many dads opt for having kids every other weekend, due to work commitments, or because they live far away and a 50/50 arrangement would not be practical.
Many thanks for your response. I did think this was a strange thing for a representative of the school to say. I actually do want to spend as much time with my kids as practical. But not willing to live in an area which is a) miles away from my family, friends and work b)has become extremely toxic due the people she has cheated with being practically on the doorstep.
I hope that you both come to an agreement that is in the best interest of the children. They might miss seeing you mid week!
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