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Hi
new here so apoligies if in wrong area.
i am having problems and wondered if anyone knows how i can legalise when i have my children i currently have them for 6 days over 2 weeks
Hi and welcome.
Is there a reason why you need to do this? The reason I ask is that for it to be legally enforceable (in theory anyway) you would need a contact order from court, but before you can go to court, you are required to attend mediation - and since you presumably have an agreement at the moment, it would seem that mediation isn't required. If you did go through the processes and got to court, changes are it would upset the agreement you have at the moment and quite possibly reduce your contact.
The reason I need it legalising is she changed the agreement we had. She recieves all the benifits inc tax credits etc and full maintenance from me. I always have the girls thurs friday sat and then eveey other week until mon am. I have rearranged my work to accomodate best I can but cannot pick the girls up from school every other thurs and drop them off to school on the friday morning. I want my ex to sort tgis out as it is affecting my job. Im on a low income as it is and cant afford the childcare. The school are funding it for now until I can resolve this.
Any ideas??
I have been to mediation to and got nowhere as she just says no and has told the school she will not be picking then up as its down to me
That's quite tricky - you can go to court to get contact, but if she is refusing to pick up from school, then it's difficult to force her. From the amount of contact you have at the moment, it's almost worth considering going for residence - the threat of that (and the fact that she'd lose child benefit and maintenance) might possibly make her see some sense. The issue is that it could end up with neither of you doing the school pickup on Thursday - you have the valid reason of your job, I presume hers is just being obstinate. Also, you could tell her that she will need after school care - since you are paying maintenance, that is for her to pay for (that's what maintenance covers). so again, it might make her see reason.
Otherwise, your only option is to go to court to get the order varied.
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