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Morning all, i hope you can help i'm 2 years into trying to get divorced and 12k of solicitor fees in. I have a consent order from my ex that i would like my solicitor to review but she has said its 5 hours work and at £270 quid an hour i just cant afford it. Honestly im not sure who is more money grabbing my solicitor or my ex wife. £12k in and im not sure how or where she has helped at all, i ended up representing my self with respect to the children.
Is there anyone on here, or anyone someone who can recommend someone to have a quick glance over and see if there is anything majorly wrong with it?
Thank you,
Hopeful Dad
Just to add, i am of course willing to pay for any help, its not the paying that i have an issue with its the amount, when all i really want is someone to have a quick glance over it and make a few suggestions.
Thanks,
Dave
You might be the best person to look at it! Does it seem ok to you? If not, do you have any friends/family who could help? Unfortunately divorce is a costly process. If you decide to self represent there are some helpful guides on the advicenow.org.uk website
A good consent order shoild be easy to understand and enforceable.
-Are arrangements for term time, half terms, summer holidays and Christmas clear?
-Are there any pitfalls that read "to be discussed and agreed between parents at the time."
-Do handovers take place at educational provisions such as nursery, pre-school or school to ensure that contact takes place?
The simpler and more robust the arrangements are, the easier they will be to adhere to and enforce.
Hi,
You could try a mediator and they can get a lawyer to review and send off consent order to court for approval. May be more affordable. Could try mediateuk. Have used them in past: https://www.mediateuk.co.uk/
What arrangements are you seeking,.is it 50/50?
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