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My current situation is my ex has stopped my seeing my child because I didn't sign a holiday form because I did not think she is stable enough due to her mental health illness to take our child abroad. She went away and I have not seen my son for 9 weeks and all I get told I should of signed the form. I was seeing my child 3 times a week to 0. I was paying her directly maintenance now she has gone to the Cms who want three times more than I was paying her, which is going to make me homeless with Loan payments I have.
She is refusing mediation claiming domestic abuse and we have not been together for years and with her mental health illness she is actually the abusive one and manipulative.
I don't qualify for legal aid so when I get the Miam form, I will not be able to progress forward.
Has anybody got any ideas? Thanks in advance.
Legal aid for private family cases was stopped back in 2014, except where there has been provable domestic violence in the relationship.
As far as the CMS is concerned, there’s not a great deal you can do about that. They do make a reduction if a child stays overnight with the paying parent.
There are many members here that have gone through the legal process without representation, it’s doable.
The fee for making a Child Arrangements application is £215, but if you are on a low income or receiving benefits, you could be entitled to a part or full exemption from that charge.
The mediator should supply you with the C100 form, with the section concerning mediation, completed and signed off. You can then submit this form to your local family court, when you will be given a date for the first hearing, once the paperwork has been cleared.
If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask. You’ll also find lots of info about the court process in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section, which you may find useful.
If you would like more direct support you might like to attend a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area. Here’s a link to their website where you’ll find details of meetings nationally, hopefully there will be one near you.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
All the best
Thanks for your reply. Do I just submit the c100 form the mediator gave me or do I need to send a fill c100 form and and the bit the mediator gave me.
You would need to complete the rest of the C100 form that you received from the mediator.
I’m not sure if some mediators are still using the old form FM1, if that’s the case and that’s what you’ve been given by the mediator, you will have to get a copy of the C100and submit it along with the FM1 form the mediator gave you.
If your unsure, give the Moderator a call and ask about it, they can tell you exactly what the next step is and what other forms you may require.
All the best
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