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Hi there,
Apologies If I ramble on tough weekend.
I have 2 kids with my ex wife (twins aged 5) We have been separated since before the kids were 1. We are now divorced since last year. She has recently moved to Glasgow, from just outside Edinburgh, my partner and I lived about 20-25mins away to now 1 hour 30 mins away.
She has changed access from every weekend to every second weekend. My child maintenance payments are based on every weekend.
Long story short. She has said she is stopping access due to me not being reasonable. She has done this in the past when I disagree with something she wants to do or wants me to do. This time it was changing the drop off location for me to take the kids back home to her yesterday. Wouldn't be a big deal if it was 30-40 mins away, but when it turns a 3 hour trip into a 4 hour trip it changes things. Given my partner and I have two other children that we need to get back for.
My ex basically does as she pleases, we have helped in the past when she was local changing shifts to be able to drop the kids at school to help out. But now she is so far away that is not an option. She has said she will stop access, so I have been looking at getting the courts involved. I do not have endless supplies of money, so I am looking at the best possible option for my circumstances.
I have come across a CB1 form to apple for parental responsibilities. We were married before the kids were born, I am named on the birth certificate also.
Any questions anyone requires to give better advice then please ask.
Thanks for reading
Hi there
The family laws in Scotland are slightly different to those in England and Wales, mediation isn't mandatory in Scotland before court action can be taken and Legal Aid is still available to those on a low income or benefits, unlike here.
Here's a link to a previous post about how things work in Scotland
https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/44827-residence-order-scotland#69826
You might also benefit from attending a Families Need Fathers meeting, here's a link to their website, if you scroll down you will find information about the meetings in Scotland.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
All the best
...if you don't have a solicitor you can call the Scottish Childrens Legal Centre and they will also be able to give you some advice about the best way forward.
www.sclc.org.uk
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