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Im wondering if anyone can help me with this one. Recently I asked my ex to discuss changing the agreement for my overnights with the kids. She refused and told me to speak to her lawyer. Today I got a letter from hwr lawyer asking me to reply only to a change in the pick up/drop of times which I don't agree to, but im not concerned with that, im concerned with how the letter finishes. It does so by saying "If matters do require to be ventilated in Court then we will found upon this correspondence both in relation to the merits and also to the question of expense" Does anyone know what this means? Does it mean that if it goes to court i will have to pay her lawyers fees? At present I don't have a lawyer myself and don't intend using one as i cant afford to.
Many thanks in advance.
Hi There,
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Although I'm sure it's possible to claim costs, I don't think it happens very often, and I can't see a judge awarding costs, to your ex, if she is making things difficult for you.
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Scare tactics! You have asked your ex to discuss changing the arrangements for overnights and she referred you to her solicitor, so any correspondence they have with you is by her instruction.
If you don't agree to the change that is being proposed and she is refusing to discuss any other changes, you are within your rights to escalate it further, first with mediation and if that fails, an application to court for a variation. Costs wouldn't be awarded in that instance, in my opinion.
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