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Good Morning All
Well section 7 report in 4 days late and absolute reverse of Officers indication.
In the report she states that she believes mother is not Directly influencing Child, (load of C***) She states that she had conducted a meeting with child in School and he pointed to pictures of Mommy crying when he go,s with his Daddy .After a 20 minute observation in a car park where 5 year old refused to get out of Mothers car and was ni on hysterical after 5 mins of contact with his Daddy he calmed down and was smiling and engaging in Conversation.
She also states she has read case notes from previous hearings (2years) and her recommendation is MIAM and Child Contact Intervention.
After claiming she has read previous case notes she seems to have completely overlooked the 2 occasions Mediation has been attempted the Supported Contact Center Involvement. The refusal from Mother for Schools Help in this Matter. The fact that the school have never witnessed any distress from Child and the 1 fantastic weekend he spent with his daddy, Evidence to this in writing from School that Child returned in a happy manner.
We have 1 last Shot at this in next week and that's it funds have ran out. Sometimes i think we just have to re evaluate and we as a Family cannot put any more into this. We have had no life for 2 years we have spent life Savings and it seems we are no farther forward than at beginning.
Yes we may have a CAO ( My son has a Shared care order) it has been worthless...
As i said 1 last shot we have a District Judge( Previous 15 hearing in front of Legal advisors or Magistrates) and we have yet again coughed up for a Barrister.
Sorry Rant over but once out it makes it easier to deal with..
x
No problem at all with the rant - in fact it seems rather tame considering what you have just had laid on you.
Can't think of any advice to give you now, but wishing you a lot of luck with your final court case.
Intresting
At least gives me a bit of hope we now have a District Judge, Case is almost identical..Only Mother in our case has changed accusations along the way from Drug taking, Abduction, Aggressive, Controlling, Hostile..the list go,s on...
Hi,
I mirror actd's reply, this forum is a good place for release so rant away.
I think your right in saying you can't give your whole life to resolving this issue, as hard as it is, at some point if the mother is so detirmined to stop contact then you reach the point there isn't much more you can do.
A court can set out an order but it can't change the attitude of the ex so even if it states XYZ if her attitude stays the same there's a good chance she won't follow it, or make things so difficult that things are worse than before.
Just my view and I do know it's not a popular one here as many feel you should never give up on fighting, but you also have to think of the child involved and the effect on them throughout
GTTS
We had a Meeting with Solicitor yesterday..This CCI recommendation is relatively new and is outsourced from Cafcass .
As each case is Unique they taylor it to fit.
My son is now at the stage where he will just take Child and let Mother Fight for him back...Not something he would of ever contemplated but then again he never in his wildest dreams envisage his ex using the Child the way she has..
Hopefully the Barrister, Experience in Hostile Mothers can Push the Judge for Enforcement
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