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Well it's been 3 years fighting in court to gain access to my two sons aged 11 and 12. On the 29th Jan I got a final order after a period of supervised access, CAFCASS reports, false allegations of DV/criminal damage and a jury trial for possession of class C drugs (steroids) with intent to supply that I was found not guilty of etc to get a great result where my kids spent every other weekend and half of all holidays with my and my new wife.
We were back in court last October as my ex had broken the court order and I managed to get more time with them/increased phone contact.
Now back to square one as my ex wife is alleging that the police and NSPCC has advised her to cease contact based upon some allegations of child abuse. What this is for me is beyond me. I have no idea. Not even been contacted by a single authority in relation to any allegations.
It's been 6 weeks since I've seen my kids and the 35th week in total, in 3 years, where I have been denied the right to see my children.
The next court hearing is on the 15th March to consider the latest breach but she issued proceedings at the same time to vary the order back to supervised contact due to these allegations (even though such allegations are just hearsay right now).
So this is the last roll of any dice my friends. I have spent a silly amount of money on this, a ridiculous amount of time with this horrendous woman being in my life and a new baby who arrived only 4 weeks ago.
I cannot bear to be back at square one again when in only a few years my kids can make their own minds up.
If the court's find that supervised contact is a necessity, which would be utterly ridiculous in these circumstances, then I'm going to have to start looking at what I can do to end the proceedings. It's affecting my health, my wife's health and could affect my employment and baby.
If the children want to find me later down the line, they can do.
But I'm broken from this. I can do no more to keep fighting this ridiculous fight of implacable hostility and parental alienation which stems from my ex's bitterness.
Hi There,
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I can fully understand where you are coming from, by the sounds of it, you have been through the mill and there has to be a point where you say enough is enough and you just stop for your own sanity and of those around you.
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Hopefully this next hearing the judge will see what is going on and not take any rubbish from your ex.
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Good luck and keep us posted.
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GTTS
Hi There,
.
I can fully understand where you are coming from, by the sounds of it, you have been through the mill and there has to be a point where you say enough is enough and you just stop for your own sanity and of those around you.
.
Hopefully this next hearing the judge will see what is going on and not take any rubbish from your ex.
.
Good luck and keep us posted.
.
GTTS
It's on this Judge now. I've done well up to this stage but I cannot go back to the whole supervised contact nonsense etc especially where such allegations, at this stage at least, are simply "hearsay".
If the Judge goes in the supervised contact direction, I'll simply say that there are allegations against my ex-wife for similar issues and place the Judge in the position where they need to think about where the children actually live because that would be the effect of believing hearsay BS.
been in almost the same position as you are for the last 6yrs +
the only thing my ex never tried is child abuse.....but that's because they would have had to interview my child away from here and done the various invasive testing etc... which would prove her the liar we all know her to be....and thank god she never put my child through that.
my biggest hurdle has been the last cafcass worker who refused to go one ht case history and previous judgements showing her implacable hostility and continuous breaking of court orders...which I now know were just her non-compliance to the expectations of the judge rather than actual breaking the ordered contact until I took her back to court.
all I can add is that at least you have had fairly regular contact with the kids that they will remember the good times and make the right choices should you give up.
fingers crossed for a good judge and cafcass officer......sadly I am losing faith in being honest and truthful with cafcass as they just accept my ex's lies and won't consider parental alienation or implacable hostility despite it being mentioned in the previous judgements at enforcement hearings!
been in almost the same position as you are for the last 6yrs +
the only thing my ex never tried is child abuse.....but that's because they would have had to interview my child away from here and done the various invasive testing etc... which would prove her the liar we all know her to be....and thank god she never put my child through that.my biggest hurdle has been the last cafcass worker who refused to go one ht case history and previous judgements showing her implacable hostility and continuous breaking of court orders...which I now know were just her non-compliance to the expectations of the judge rather than actual breaking the ordered contact until I took her back to court.
all I can add is that at least you have had fairly regular contact with the kids that they will remember the good times and make the right choices should you give up.
fingers crossed for a good judge and cafcass officer......sadly I am losing faith in being honest and truthful with cafcass as they just accept my ex's lies and won't consider parental alienation or implacable hostility despite it being mentioned in the previous judgements at enforcement hearings!
I feel for you. It's actually been 4 years nearly that I've been going through this, not 3. Could not believe it when I saw it but absolutely unreal. Over 10% of my life spent in court and fighting an absolute lunatic.
I can't spend another hour in the woman's company. Far easier to just do the decent thing, save my kids the horrors of the CAFCASS interview process all over again and just retreat.
I don't need to win every battle to win this war.
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