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Hi all,
Not long got off the phone to the cafcass officer conducting the interview, and I must say it felt like I was on trial.
The allegations she is claiming is as follows
1- physical ( no evidence of this ever happening)
2- emotional abuse
3-controlling abuse
4-financial abuse,( thankgod for bank statements)
5- child chastatation (smacked my daughters hand once for throwing things at me)
6- I forced entry into the house and smashed her head into the fridge freezer(when in fact I entered with a key and didn't get as far as the hallway as she phoned the police. Ppu report states I turned up at the house and I accused her of having an affair, no mention of physical violence, she needs to get her stories straight.
7- emotionally abusing our daughter by saying can't wait to see you via WhatsApp.
8-blamed me for our daughters tantrums and lashing out, because apparently they have stopped all of a sudden.
With all these accusations I still had to say what a fantastic mom she is( mother of the year not!!)
How I held my tongue back I do not know.
But on a plus note the ex said I could have supervised contact at my parents house
Same pattern as in virtually all cases where a father seeks legal action to stay in his childs life!
It has to be a script these mothers are given when they seek advice…
Try this…say that…do this…do that…then he’ll be back under your control or he’ll give in to your demands!
CAFCASS and Courts see it day in day out yet still see you as the guilty party until you prove you’re not…..which could take months or years of your child’s life!
Oh and don’t forget you dare stop maintenance payments like they stop you seeing your children and see what happens and how quickly they get their money off you!!!!
Rant over! Sorry!
Well done for keeping your cool during the interview, doesn't sound like that was easy.
Take the supervised contact for now and see what the directions hearing brings and take the opportunities to defend your position.
Anything we can do, let us know
Good luck
Well done for keeping your cool during the interview, doesn't sound like that was easy.
Take the supervised contact for now and see what the directions hearing brings and take the opportunities to defend your position.
Anything we can do, let us know
Good luck
All it is with the ex is about bring controlling.....and she is being coached what to say by a womans aid caseworker. I won't mind but 3/4 of these allegations wasn't even part of the non molestation order, so all fresh allegations, God knows what she is trying to achieve..
I'm sure she has a personality disorder or even been brain washed by this case worker..
Hi there
Yeah, well done for keeping it together.
Thanks yoda,
Ofcourse I'm going to snap up the opportunity to have supervised contact I would be a fool not too..
In some way I hope it does goto a fact finding hearing,because I will prove my innocence...
Well regarding the financial abuse I can.
Physical abuse, no evidence what so ever, and I have a statement off a neutral friend stating he was there on one occasion when she attacked me.
I have the ppu report to clear my name of this fridge incident,
So hopefully I'll have enough to prove what a lier she actually is.
Well done for keeping it together Pricey. Just remember that these case workers are used to hearing allegations, you did your part and fingers crossed for a decent report.
is there a Men's Aid ?
is there a Minister for Men?
is there a DV advert showing a Man as the victim?
i'm starting to think i have less rights than an migrant as a white british working and tax paying father.....
Ooops i'm probably not allowed to say that though can i for fear of being branded Sexist and Racist 🙁
Mods delete if to harsh an opinion!
I wouldn't brand you as Racist or Sexist, you're reacting to the gross injustice of your situation...is it any wonder you feel the way the do!
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