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@Vik2001 @everyone - so had my first centre supervised visit. my son (7 year old) came in i hugged and kissed him. but i can tell his mum has heavily coached him as he wouldnt speak a lot and after 10 minutes he said he wants to leave. we had a brief conversation about school and christmas lunch etc.
the centre staff has told my ex that if he doesn't want to be there he can just ask to leave, so since shes told her that my son keeps saying he wants to leave after few mins into our contact (we have also had 4 video contacts - which my ex is initiating from home).
i have her on video (recorded) stating to my son to only speak once on the call and cutting the call when he speaks (on the home video calls). I have told cafcass about this.. but the cafcass women just said if the centre staff see any signs of parental alienation they will note it down, but my ex is not coming in the room yet she is coaching him before he comes to the centre. ive tried to show the videos to the centre staff but they are not interesting in looking at anything else but whats happening in front of them. My EX has really taking advantage of the system,
would be grateful for some help or ideas on what i can do? BTW even though my son left the room, my 2 year daughter stayed and we had a great time. Im really worried about my son.
Give it time he may open up. Take some toys or something thst will help him engage with u.
If nothing improves u will have to tell cafcass and yr barrister this.
Give it time and be patient, think of short and fun activities you can do with him there at first, he needs to learn that spending time with you is fun and rewarding and he'll want to spend longer each time.
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