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If the court orders handovers at school, the mother will have to comply with that. Best bet is to present the court with workable options and if they can't get you to agree, they will decide.
In the short term, as has been said - a contact centre could be a good option.
Thanks to everyone for their help. Initially when my ex made the non molestation order she even told the social services that she doesnt see my as a harm to the kids. social services acknowledged this on the report. However as she as realised later that i have applied for shared custody she has now written further lies in the fact finding about me hitting my son, which i have never in my life. Im hoping the courts would see the inconsistencies as all she is trying to do is avoid shared custody. her solicitor has written that she would like me to send and receive pictures at first. I could not believe she had made a suggestion like that knowing what a hands on parent i have been and the relationship i had with both my children.
Ultimately, Cafcass will make recommendations. The court will try to get everyone to agree a way forward. If none is found, you will have a final hearing and the court will decide. Best of luck
by the way I realised the therapy my ex is getting my son to go through seems to be via CAMHS. don't know if anyone has heard of them? seems to be that any parent can refer their children to go on there. I cant think of any reason why she would refer our son to this apart from making her case stronger. I have video footage of my son on the day he went all ok, asking about me, obviously not knowing he wont see me for this long and certainly not really knowing what's going on. Heart breaking she would use our children to do this, ive always been a fully hands on father. i suppose i will have to see what her reports from CAMHS brings.
Its unlikely anything will arise from the reports other than the usual obvious stuff thats in them. Judge does act on err of caution though until he has seen report now . This is a delay tactic from your ex to frustrate and prolong u not seeing son. Once he reads report you probably start off with supervised contact as not seen son for a year unless your ex has an unlikely change of heart at next hearing
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