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Craigmcd wrote his post 5 years ago
@jabilm60 the best options for child contact with a non mol are, using 3rd parties approved by your ex eg mutual friends or family members, using a contact centre just for handover purposes although there is usually a cost for this of around £20 or doing it at the school so that you pick them up from school on a Fri eve and then drop them off on a Mon morning for example, however this only works if either the non mol does not prevent you going to the school or if it does you would then require written permission from the school allowing this to happen and the school would only do this with approval from your ex.
If you can make arrangements for any of these options via a 3rd party that would be best, otherwise you will need to do it via solicitors.
Main thing is that you do not breach the non mol in any way what so ever..
Hope this helps.
As has been said, be very careful not to breach the non-mol as it can have serious consequences. A non-molestation order can allow for handovers. It all depends on the circumstances and view of the court.
Handovers where the parents drop off or pick up school are usually the easiest to avoid seeing the other parent, or in a public place with cctv can be considered.
Best of luck
Thanks to @Daddyup and @yoda for your responses. I really appreciate it. I haven't got a bit family network, and my imediate family she wont accept to do handovers too. She's trying to make things hard and will make it even harder if I am found guilty for access to kids. School would of been a good option but if it requires approval from my ex, then that's where the issue will be. Again I appreciate everyone's feedback maybe a area with CCTV would be a option to consider.
Consider using a contact centre for handovers, they will facilitate things and contact both parties..if handovers goes well with no issues then you can also get this confirmation from the contact centre.. Therefore in the future when the non mol expires (usually after 6 or 12 months) you can suggest that as there have been no issues with handover and no breaches of the non mol to progress to handover at school or directly with your ex etc.. The cost is around £20 I believe and very worth it..
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