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Would a cross-undertakings and agreed wording go against a contact order later down the line?
Also, In a contact order case, can the malicious ex just say anything and a test will be ordered? Even with zero proof or evidence?
And how much do these tests cost?
@prisma hi cannot say for sure. but courts are known to take a cautious approach and may order tests to be on safe side. tests could cost roughly anywhere between few hundred to £1000 or above.
@prisma hi cannot say for sure. but courts are known to take a cautious approach and may order tests to be on safe side. tests could cost roughly anywhere between few hundred to £1000 or above.
I can’t actually believe it. These women take our children away from us. We apply for a order (at our expense) to see our own children that we rightfully should do. Then they can just freely lie and say we have alcohol or drug issues with no proof or evidence that demonstrates this. And then be ordered to take a test that costs us £1000 out of our pocket.
How in the world is this justice and how is nothing being done about this corruption?
@prisma
i joined to answer this.
I had this exact thing last year, (2020) I contested false drug allegations and the parties were made to share equally the cost of testing.
the drug I admitted to, I had to pay the full sum for testing.
if you don’t do it, say so.
if you do, stop. You will be tested.
destroy all evidence of you doing whatever it is you may be doing.
Deny it to split the cost but make sure you stay clean.
Pick your own path!
I passed all of my tests.
alcohol, opiates, cocaine and its derivatives, cannaboids.
alcohol seems to be a standard test regardless of whether it was mentioned or not? Nobody on either side mentions alcohol but I was still ordered to do a test?
I admitted cannabis as my phone was seized, (false harassment) and it had a number of incriminating messages so I felt obliged to stick my hand up and say I do. Apart from that I’m clean as a whistle.
All tests are hair strand and your hair develops in your scalp for two weeks prior to its emergence from the scalp.
They can reasonably test with a high degree of accuracy to at least 6 months from the date the sample was taken.
cut your hair if you have to!
I highly recommend alpha biolabs.
The court didn’t seem to care about the use of cannabis!
and I’m now allowed to do any drug (even the drugs I’ve never done) providing it allows a 48 hour window before any contact direct or otherwise with my child.
I’ll be honest, I was scared they would stop me seeing my baby because of this.
Update on my case:
I did my research, I got my house in order and I have self represented throughout. She had a annoying McKenzie friend (fake legal wannabes) who I did put in her place after doing my research on what they can and can’t do.
The judge put forward either accept the non mol order or go to a trial. I put forward a cross-undertakings on the grounds of not accepting any of the allegations and to allow contact arrangements going forward.
The judge and both parties accepted this but I will not sign anything until I am happy with the wording of it first.
I am almost past the first milestone and I feel like a bit of the dark cloud has passed and it’s starting to brighten up.
The next step after this is a contact arrangement order and a parental responsibilities order.
She took away my first Father’s Day, and now my child’s first Christmas. These are things I will never get back. I’ve tried to understand why she is so evil but it consumes you trying to understand someone else’s behaviour.
I will update after the next court date and I will try to help others who are experiencing a similar situation.
well done with what you have achieved so far. I will warn you that there will be times when things will probably go against you, but having had a reasonable outcome, just remember in those times that you will have more, and keep looking forward. Good luck with everything to come.
The behaviour of her Mckenzie friend will only undermine her own case against you.
it may be an attempt to rile and antagonise you, but if you don’t rise to it....
you win.
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