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I have a hearing next week. I have submitted my statements along with evidence.

If I have proven with facts and evidence that the ex has clearly lied throughout her application, will this be enough to cancel the order?

 

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Hi

Its great that everything has been submitted. I would just caution that what we see as clearly refuting the judge may see differently.. Unless you have had legal representation confirm this to you I would not take it for granted and therefore prepare well for the hearing. 

 

All the best. 

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I have another hearing this week and I’ve been stuck with what approach to have.

All of this has been having an impact on my health and well-being being, I just want it to be all over but I also believe in fighting for the truth.

I have proven with evidence that the allegations are untrue and I contested the allegations and the offer of undertakings.

I have considered the undertakings if they are offered again but only if they are mirrored by the ex.

But then I’m also stuck with fighting for what I believe in and standing by ground. I believe the ex will make further false allegations even if I do agree to undertakings. (This is one big malicious and strategic game she is playing to create more leverage between myself and my child)

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I fully understand.



Sometimes you Just have to say ok the truth will come out it can not be hidden for Life something called Karma will happen, but at the end you do what's best for “you” your mental wellbeing it will take a hit could take you years to recover plus the Debit and worry that you got yourself into.
With me if it helps.

I can say, was going to fight but thought about my options seeked good advice, cleared x debit even though yes false allegations lied to the police, lied to Cafcass / Courts etc managed to get legal aid sorry to say it was stay sane and have my Mental wellbeing in tacked well only, still recovering from all of this or fight to clear my name of the false allegations at the end none were proven but the court / Cafcass still fell for x Drama and here say and pity / could have gone down the fact finding, witness statements and witness character reference etc would have cost a packet all for what?

I would have felt better but would have not have got my costs back and guess what x lives in the family home with the children all paid for on the benefit street.
Courts / Cafcass don’t care, if your living on a park bench in your car, because there’s children involved and that x has played the system, but at the end once this all ends you will end up the better person with your head held high God forbid if x comes knocking it will be to late you would have got your life back!
By that time you would have moved on.

Yes I still have not seen my Son or Daughter for over 2 Years once this is over it will be 6 Years they will be, Son 22 Daughter 20 they will make up there own minds and Guess what my door will always be open to them!
Can't say the same about the x!

Last thought you put your children first that you always loved them and made sure that they had a roof over there heads no matter what (at the end they will always thank you for that) well you can always hope but your Conscience will be clear your x well she will have to live with that for the rest of her life!!


Sorry being long.

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Posted by: @djsmith

I fully understand.



Sometimes you Just have to say ok the truth will come out it can not be hidden for Life something called Karma will happen, but at the end you do what's best for “you” your mental wellbeing it will take a hit could take you years to recover plus the Debit and worry that you got yourself into.
With me if it helps.

I can say, was going to fight but thought about my options seeked good advice, cleared x debit even though yes false allegations lied to the police, lied to Cafcass / Courts etc managed to get legal aid sorry to say it was stay sane and have my Mental wellbeing in tacked well only, still recovering from all of this or fight to clear my name of the false allegations at the end none were proven but the court / Cafcass still fell for x Drama and here say and pity / could have gone down the fact finding, witness statements and witness character reference etc would have cost a packet all for what?

I would have felt better but would have not have got my costs back and guess what x lives in the family home with the children all paid for on the benefit street.
Courts / Cafcass don’t care, if your living on a park bench in your car, because there’s children involved and that x has played the system, but at the end once this all ends you will end up the better person with your head held high God forbid if x comes knocking it will be to late you would have got your life back!
By that time you would have moved on.

Yes I still have not seen my Son or Daughter for over 2 Years once this is over it will be 6 Years they will be, Son 22 Daughter 20 they will make up there own minds and Guess what my door will always be open to them!
Can't say the same about the x!

Last thought you put your children first that you always loved them and made sure that they had a roof over there heads no matter what (at the end they will always thank you for that) well you can always hope but your Conscience will be clear your x well she will have to live with that for the rest of her life!!


Sorry being long.

Thank you for your words.

I am representing myself, it won’t cost me if it goes down the fact finding/ witness character reference route will it?

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@prisma As others have stated No cost unless test etc.

if x has Legal Aid they will try and tie you up trip twist and turn I started off deflecting but it took its toll on my mental well-being but have kept costs down 

Best of Luck 🤞 please keep posting as we are all routing for you!

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hi,

If your self-representing, then there's no further cost. but if your ex makes allegations about alcohol/drug use, and if court orders you to take drug tests, then there would be costs. hopefully it doesn't come to that.

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