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My wife & I separated in February after what I thought was suggested by social services due to issues between my 12yr old son & I.briefly we've been together 22 yrs on & off,there was violence between us in the early years but I've never man handled her since then other than to defend myself,the last time was when she attacked me 3yrs ago.due to something stupid I did 3yrs ago my 12 yr old self harmed & social services got involved via cahms & eventually it was suggested I moved out,which begrudgingly I did in February.since then there's been wrongful accusations & my visits were restricted but I believed my wife was sticking up for me,or so she said.the last meeting was Sept & my 15yr old has accused me of strangling him,which is completely false.he'd been arguing with his mum & I let it go but eventually he was getting very mouthy,i shouted at him from the kitchen to stop but he carried on so I confronted him which my wife supported at the time & said he deserved but it upset ny daughter whose 6.at the meeting a few days later he made his accusation & I've been completely cut off with no explanation.I've tried numerous times to contact my wife & when I eventually saw her I wash issued a pins (harrasement order),so I sent my wife a letter apologising & assuring her that it wouldn't happen again & I'd leave her & the kids until I was legally allowed,I'd also given her a cheque towards the upkeep of the children,i normally gave cash,then last night I was presented with the non molestation order thats full of discrepancies.I'm at my wits end & don't know what to do,i can't stop crying,can't eat,sleep & have seriously considered suicide to end their nightmare & set them free.I'm not blessed with finances & would struggle to afford a solicitor
First and foremost mate try and get ending it out of your head that will be good for no one but I can understand how you will be feeling like that as I've been there myself when all this started If you keep feeling like that then give the Samaritans a call they are fantastic and I've phoned them on many occasion over the past 18 months It's nice to speak to someone not connected with the situation, their number is 08457 90 90 90.
Secondly this can and will be sorted out It may take a little time but it will be sorted but you need to get your head in shape before you do anything, don't worry about finances ect for court as you can self represent which won't cost you a fortune and there's a wealth of information on this site particularly at the top of the legal eagle section on how to go about it.
Like I said you need to concentrate on yourself first and get yourself right, go and have a word with your GP, try to eat well sleep well, speak with family and friends try and do some exercise get out and about socialising as much as possible.
Keep posting on here and have a read through other peoples situations it's completely natural to feel the way you do we've all been through it so don't feel like your alone.
All the best
Slim 🙂
Is there anything I can do with regards to the order?? It's been greatly exaggerated & false in certain elements,it also lasts for a year by which time my daughter would've forgotten who I was & the boys will not want to know
Yes mate there is if you click recent posts on here there's a wealth of info of peeps who have been in the same boat as you. If you start court proceedings asap then you will see your children before that and you may be able to get it over turned, as hard as it is you need to get on it and start the ball rolling with regards to access I wish I started it all sooner.
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