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So guys the cafcass officer wants me to do cbt sessions and parenting course and wants to get social services involved so i am not going to do this in court ....in december when i go i have written out something for the judge to say in a nut shell how bad ive been treated and how cafcass have been poor in all this and why now 12 months down the line do they need social services involved when they have been asked before if they want to be involved but said no so why now they are just trying to do all they can to stop me having contact .but after long talks with my wife ive said im not letting social services involved because its not right so im saying no im not doing cbt no im not doing another parent course no you dont have me in agreement to let social services involved and that i want to go to a final hearing to let my barrister pull cafcass apart and still the judge might believe everything cafcass says but id rather give it one last shot i feel like im discriminated because of my mental heath condition which i have had since i was 13 and has never been questioned up until now and they said the reason they want me to do cbt is to make my ex feel better ..so no that is not happening and if judge say that i cant take it to final hearing then i will just stick with indirec contact and if that fails then i know my child in 2 or 3 years when they hit there teens will find me its sad because i know now deep down that its 90% over but however bad the odds are i will try drag it to final hearing and if they say we are appointing social service i will have no involvement and ask for indirect contact till child wishes to see me gutted today guys my wife has travelled home from work from manchester to leeds and now where both gutted with this [censored] report from cafcass but the fight goes on until the that final hearing happens any advice is greatful guys thanks
I’m sorry to hear mate. I can’t really comment very much, every situation is different and yours is more difficult than most.
I will tell you however that I went for CBT voluntarily. I decided to do it when a good friend of mine who years ago was separated from her father told me that her father had CBT and he wished he had done it earlier.
My personal experience is that it is worth it, so much so that I continue to do it now that my case is over.
What is hard to stomach is why is it only the father who has to jump these hoops, it feels humiliating and I don’t understand how the system expects that shoving fathers around in this way is in the best interest of the child, but I accept what I cannot change and keep moving forward.
If you allow me just one suggestion, that would be, give it a nights sleep before you make a decision.
I’m sorry to hear mate. I can’t really comment very much, every situation is different and yours is more difficult than most.
I will tell you however that I went for CBT voluntarily. I decided to do it when a good friend of mine who years ago was separated from her father told me that her father had CBT and he wished he had done it earlier.
My personal experience is that it is worth it, so much so that I continue to do it now that my case is over.
What is hard to stomach is why is it only the father who has to jump these hoops, it feels humiliating and I don’t understand how the system expects that shoving fathers around in this way is in the best interest of the child, but I accept what I cannot change and keep moving forward.
If you allow me just one suggestion, that would be, give it a nights sleep before you make a decision.
ive done cbt on and off for ten years its good but im at a good place mentally but its when the ex stop start contact that makes me anxious but the court think this is going to solve my situation with contact its just one thing after Another by the time courts over my child could 16 so im just gonna write a letter to judge explaining that im being discriminated by cafcass and want a final hearing
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