[Solved] Is this reality...

Excellent advice there Justdad - we often forget about the Samaritans. As you say, then can't give legal advice, but they can listen and that is often a big part of getting through it.

Well... I'm stunned... I had a flawless c100 hearing, feels too good to be true. A supervised visit a week was going to be par for me, supported would be really nice, but my wife agreed with my solicitor for me to have 2 hours twice a week whereever I want! I'm over the moon! But I can't help being suspious why the sudden change of heart.

Also she didn't fight the prohibited steps order against her dirty old sugar daddy or whatever he is.

Her appearance took a step back, she used to be a show stopper now looks a bit rough. Only two quick glances from her and blanked in the court room. Really mixed signals.

When I look back at photos of my ex she looks nothing like the "perfect" vision I had of her at the time. There is something about being abused and betrayed so royally that makes us truly open our eyes.

I think I'm a bit of a cynic but I sit here after reading your post thinking she wants those four hours a week so she can go see her old man. That's also why she wasn't bothered about the pso.....but I'm probably wrong.

Just take what you can get. Most of the cases I have been involved with in the last year have had a strong element of the other side trying desperately to avoid being seen like they are trying to alienate or separate children from the other parent. Perhaps she has been advised that she needs to be reasonable.

What's the next step in your case? Section 7?

It's something more, this was a girl that dressed really classy, espically if doing something official, now she gone all council estate. I don't know if deliberate agenda or state of mind. It felt really weird, there I am all suited and booted, challenging the judge who is best dressed.

We agreed for me to have one to one quality time with each child since my 3 year has servere autism and will wreck my mother's house if given half a chance, so she will always have one. Maybe she will just ignore the steps order who will check? I don't like how she words it that the children won't see him but doesn't mention herself, my solicitor noticed that as well.

I don't know it's all so weird, saying in single assessment she would never let me have the children alone, only supervised and now to this. I don't know what will happen next, I had an email from Cafcass Wednesday wanting my number. SS said last week they be in contact this week but haven't. Only thing on the radar is in October is a pre trial to see if things can be sorted regarding non molestation and occupation order. If not bankrupt myself with a final roll of the dice with barrister.

I wouldn't waste time trying to figure out what she may be up to... it's great news that it went well, but just carry on concentrating on whats best for your child. Hopefully the court will be looking to increase contact as the case progresses.

Life is strange and I feel weird.

I had my first 2 hour visit today with my youngest son after 70 days alienated. He looks like a totally different boy, no smiles, very serious face and withdrawn. He's walking but did not make any sounds. I felt like a stranger with him.

In the last half hour he loosened up a bit and I got some giggles from him. Then it's time up and good bye for 7 days again.

I see why me and my father such different people after years apart and unable to bond, just emotional pain and awkwardness

Well, after 7 days, he's going to remember you much more than after 70 days, so it will get better pretty quickly I would think.

I applied for a police disclosure back in July and it's still not ready. It was due to be submitted 2 weeks ago. My lawyer contacted the police officer dealing with it and she said it will be several weeks yet! My lawyer thinks it won't even be ready for the pre-trial on middle of next month and the main trial in November could even be pushed back!
Is it normal for such a massive delay? The disclosure will prove my wife perverted the course of justice lying about me getting arrested for rape.

Also yesterday was the final day for my wife to submit any evidence to the court, she hasn't. I guess there will be no punishment for late filing if she does?

My FDHRA is on 10th and I still haven't heard from Cafcass, when will they appear? And what can I expect to get from the FDHRA? I'm currently seeing each child of mine 2 hours a week unsupervised.

This week I had to attend a compliance/fraud interview at the job centre. They had two reports from "members of the public" that I'm frauding benefits. Only two people knew such details about me, my wife and her [censored] offender sugar daddy. The case got closed as malicious lies. I reported it to the police as further harassment and I just got brushed off it's just a civil matter. Yeah really civil trying to screw a vulnerable adult out of his only income and trying to halt my court funding, causing me 2 weeks of extra stress waiting for the interview.

Anyone?

My wife still didn't submit any evidence for the PTR this month and her lawyer didn't answer 2 e-mails from mine... My gut feels suspious I know she hasn't got any on fact but I'm worried I'll get blind sided by something.

Strange thing is that a mutual friend of ours has noticed she's became very friendly with my biological father on Facebook and he's blocked me. It's strange because we both disliked him for strong reasons and wasn't friends on FB with him.

I still don't know what to expect from FDHRA on Wednesday. Will I get more contact? The 4 hours a week for like 6 weeks now have gone without hitch.

Personally the loneliness and betrayal has been hitting me extra hard this week, hard to hold together.

Sorry, having a senior moment, what's the PTR?

What is your solicitor saying, if she's late filing evidence your solicitor should be bringing this up and asking for the evidence to be set aside. There's case law to back this up. I'll dig it out for you. However, whether the court will take a firm hand is anyone's guess to be honest.

Is your contact centre contact supervised, if so there should be a written report prepared for the court, you could chase that up with the CC. If the report is good, your solicitor should push for contact to move out of the CC and into the community. It might be a good idea for you to prepare a schedule of increasing contact to take with you, in case the court are willing to discuss progression.

How did your cafcass interview go?

I'm sorry to hear that the strain is getting to you, keep yourself busy, try to concentrate on your case and not think about what she may be doing... it's tough., but you'll get through this, make sure you're looking after yourself, getting enough to eat and adequate sleep, also try and take some time out to go and do something you enjoy, perhaps meet up with friends for a pint and curry... whatever it is, just be kind to yourself.

Best of luck

Here's the link, you can use the search tab at the top of the page to look for older posts on the subject of late filing, or anything else that you want to research.

http://thecustodyminefield.com/lying-in-court-and-penalties-for-late-filing-of-evidence/

Best of luck

PTR is the Pre-trial review. To see if matters can be settled without the full trial next month. I pray for a miracle she will give up when she sees my counter evidence and I can live in my house with my children again, but how cruel and cold she's been I doubt it.

My solicitor seems pretty low energy, just saying it's unexplained where her evidence is, that my statement can't be finalised without that and the still outstanding police disclosure which I applied for in July.

I'm not in a contact centre, my step dad picks up the children for me since I have a 100m ban from my house and then I have 2 hours alone with each one.

I will only hear from Cafcass (for the first time) on 5th of November on telephone...
SS are being strange again, I had the orginal single assentment quashed via my MP for mental discrimination (they blamed my OCD for my danger thoughts about other man, which I later vindicated) bias, lack of dueliligence and safeguarding. They meant issue a fresh one with new SS worker (she seemed nice and for me) but still no sign of it and SS worker not answering me why.
It's making me feel paranoid which is rather easy when the cloest person in the world to you shoots you through the heart and stabs you in the back.

I started going to the gym last month and took up boxing classes but social anxiety makes it hard for me to break the ice, I appear as cold and aloof when I'm not.