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Evening all,
bit of a head scratcher this, had a letter from our child’s mother regarding increasing my time with them to 50:50… she’s basically objecting and saying that we can either accept her child care arrangements or goto court where she’ll file a C1A form?!? This to me sounds wrong on so many levels, surely if someone is doing something which justifies a C1A form then 1. You don’t let your children near them even for a weekend!!!
2. You don’t wait for them to disagree with your plans before submitting it to a court?
If my actions (which I’m fairly adamant they don’t) deserved “domestic violence” status then surely they should be logged no matter what and not used as leverage to better her status?
anyhow, just thought I’d ask for some Impartial advice as like I mentioned, sounds awfully like blackmailing to me🤷🏻♂️
Hi,
What I would suggest is if you can not agree on child arrangements, invite her to mediation. If that fails then there is option to take it to court. Either one of you can apply.
Attempt mediation but ensure that the arrangement for 50/50 are in the best interest of the children, reasonable and manageable.
Thank you for the replies, sadly we’ve already tried mediation and even the mediator was pulling her hair out towards the end, what little was agreed she’s ignored hence why the court is now looking likely…
Children are the primary reason for doing this, they have awkward sleeping arrangements and have excess time with pre and after school care…
It's important to note that using the threat of submitting a C1A form (which is a form related to domestic violence and abuse) as leverage in a custody or parenting dispute is not appropriate. If someone is truly concerned about domestic violence or abuse, they should not be using it as a negotiating tactic.
It's also worth noting that using threats or intimidation to try and get someone to do something against their will is a form of extortion, which is a crime. Online sextortion refers to the use of threatening or intimidating tactics online to try and get someone to do something against their will.
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