[Solved] Is she breaching

We're not here to beat you up or judge and I think we all know how difficult it is to keep everything under wraps sometimes. I do think anger management might help give you some insight and will teach you some strategies that will help you to control your emotions. The court will view this favourably too..

Best foot forward! 🙂

Yeah man that sounds like the best bet brush yourself down get up and crack on 🙂

Try and do things to take your mind off things and the court case as when every things up in the air and there's all sorts going on you can't see the wood for the trees, do a hobby you enjoy, socialise more, get yourself to the gym or get stuck into work anything to keep yourself busy and your mind occupied.

What stage are the courts at? Have you got another hearing soon? I ask because you've said you're making a fresh application?

Keep your chin up all isn't lost 🙂

The anger management will be a lot of help I think. A court will let you start again, but if you make the same mistakes, then they have no reason to come to a different decision, and in fact may come down even harder on you. The anger management will help you to understand how to deal with these situations and if you can come across in a more calm manner, both in court and outside it, then a court might start to look more favourably on you. It is going to be a long process, so be under no illusions about that, and you may get some setbacks, but if you can take those in your stride and keep pushing forward in the right manner, you might get there in the end.

thank you for the feedback chaps much appreciated..even tho its not as positive sounding as id like but its honesty which i prefer..

by acting the way i did, if i finally do get to see my daughter again im back to the very start, contact centre for a yr...but the mother and her family will refuse to bring her i know they will..theres so many factors going against me now its unreal but ill still make the application. Slim there are no hearings yet im making the application in the next few weeks or maybe a month or so when i have the money, i wont put through and enforcement order im putting in another c100 and starting a fresh.

chin up and i hope i see a lenient judge when it gets to court

what i did want to ask ,this will be my 3rd c100 in 18 months on the same case, will the court deffo give me a hearing or do they have a right to refuse?

She could apply for a Section 91 (14) Barring Order which would prevent you from making further applications without the permission of the court, but that's unlikely unless she has a solicitor.

Generally a party should wait about 6 months between applications, unless there's an emergency or enforcement. I would suggest you get the anger management course done first and perhaps think about attending a parenting course too, before re applying.

she has used solicitors in the past, so if she does get a barring order section 91 is there a way around it at all?

To be honest, I wouldn't worry about that - your focus should be on the contact order and making sure that you act in the best possible way from now on. Make the assumption that every thing you do will be brought up in front of the judge (if it's bad, by your ex, if it's good, by you) .

thank you, im in higher spirits now..still a bit up and down through the day but the way i was acting i didnt deserve contact. best foot foreward and i hope the judge gives me a last chance

Hi Guys,

Right i have taken a pro active approach and filed a variation on my contact order, i posted it today. I know your all here to help and you have all be fantastic and i appreciate all the advice up to now so no negativity on my latest decision please.

I am just wondering what do i ask to vary??..

Currently i have a court order which stands at every 2 weeks in a contact centre, it couldnt actually have been better..(yes kicking myself).. do i ask the judge to reduce it to every month until the dust settles??...but f i do that i dont want it to look like im lacking commitment etc.. also my last variation was less than 3 months ago and you have stated to wait atleast 6 months for each order to be filed, but its filed now so will the judge give me a hearing??

My strategy is to go in, hold my hands up and apologie to all parties concerned, show total remorse and promise this kind of thing will never happen again and ask for contact to continue..show that ive been seeking help with going to a Councillor and keep my fingers and toes crossed.

help me if this sounds unreasonable??

I know your all sick of hearing my mistakes but any advice would be so helpful

cheers 🙂