[Solved] Is she breaching

I think we've probably advised you against any kind of confrontation with your ex and from your post you know that you have made things more difficult for yourself.

People are not in breach if they have a good reason to go against an order, that will be how the court sees it. Do you have another court date or is your case closed?

I would strongly advise that you stop sending her messages, you will just be digging yourself a deeper hole to climb out of.

the case is closed so i need to make a new application.

will the courts refuse any contact in the next hearing, will they have washed their hands with me now?

It's down to the court - it may well be that they will order indirect contact, but if you continue to send messages to your ex, if serious enough you could end up with a an injunction against you and break that and you could be in the criminal courts.

good grief i do hope that it wont be indirect contact...my daughter isnt 2 yet so indirect contact wont be much use..all i can do is grovel to the court and assure them the messages will stop and hope for the best

You could offer to make a legal undertaking to the court not to message (make sure it covers everything, so texts, emails, conversations etc) - they may accept that, but beware that breaking that can be taken very seriously by the court.

ok thanks for the heads up..

if they do refuse a contact order when can i re apply?

Some people just don't learn, do they? 🙁

i messed up big time

Mate........you don't half like making life difficult for yourself! Carry on at this rate and it will take forever to get the ball rolling again, You've simply got to keep your temper in check as acting like that not only effects you but your daughter and all the other blokes trying to see their kids.

Draw the line in kicking off at your ex and start trying to fix things I wouldn't try to get her done for breaking the order as it's you at fault and if she heres you're going for enforcement she will dig her heels in and use them messages against you.

I suppose my first point of call will be to contact the centre manager promise to her and the ex that you are not going to carry on being a [censored] and ask her to contact the ex to see if she will reconsider contact starting again, I'd try and keep contact with the ex to a minimum and go through a 3rd party when you want to contact her.

Be very careful as the ex can get a non mol against you with the texts and good luck.

Slim 🙂

She is never ever coming back to the centre again, ive already tred that route

I know this is going to take ages, im filing another contact order and starting from scratch, thats all i can do. things were great...i was doing so well, i just dont know what goes through my head

cheers

I got advice of a solicitor and he said what i have done is not ideal but the judge is unlikely to stop contact fully for the reasons i had given. I was totally honest with him like i have been here with you guys. Im going to go on anger management courses to show im trying to help myself. i have all my court forms filled out because i am panicking, but i need to relax and take a breath cos when i go back to court i need to make it count. Ive got sleepless nights ahead, a living [censored] in my own mind and some long days coming this winter, may this be a lesson tom me.