[Solved] Is she being a b**ch?

Hi,

Quick question: How can she afford a lawyer if she is on benefits? The only way you get legal aid in family cases is if there is DV involved

Oh really? This is interesting. I wouldnt put it past her to lie about this in an attempt to scare monger me in to doing what she wants. However are you sure this is correct for Scottish legal aid??

if your ex does not work then why is it inconvenient to her when you spend time with your children?.... do they have to be somewhere or attend a club?,

I would reply with a statement that it is important that your child is allowed to maintain a significant relationship with you, and that you should not have to give up gainful employment in order to simply maintain that relationship with your child. That it is also important that your child continues to have a role model such as yourself and sees that being employed and able to support yourself and your dependent is not only an important life lesson, but is also an expectation of the society in which we live. That it is possible to schedule every other weekend but not not possible to schedule the two days during the working week without it being detrimental to your position at work. The current arrangement has being taking place for ......months, and in the light of your ex being unemployed for ...... months/years you fail to see how changing the current arrangement is beneficial to your daughters needs.

In my opinion if your random two days makes things simply inconvenient for your ex, then tough..... do she have a genuine reason and if so what is it?

sorry, that last sentence cone across as if i need to know the reason why.... i don't... you do =]

I'd say yes she is, she needs to be cooperative with you to do what's best for the child. Her putting obstacles in the way certainly isn't!

Visit a citizens advice bureau, they will be able to put you in touch with people to help arrange correct contact that is viable for the both of you.

Hi There,
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If your ex is trying to enforce what days you have and is trying to get a solicitor involved to tell you when you do see your child, then you need to try mediation, rather than accepting what a solicitor has written, they don't have the authrority to decide when you see your child.
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I would try and set up mediation asap and they will invite your ex along, if she won't attend then themediator will sign a form so that you can apply to the courts and the courts can set up a order and should help you as you are working to settle on days when you are available to see your child.
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Court costs aren't expensive and you can represent yourself throughout to keep costs down.
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GTTS