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hi i went to court lost as i was going for residence. the ex lied about everthing from me not being capable looking after my kids to youngest not having correct matteress even mentioned each of my kids should have bedroom each of their own(even thou they have not got one at exs)
in the end i got youngest and 13 yr wed fri after school till 6 sat sun8-4 and every other week end i got 13 yr fri sat three yr old sat night
this may sound alot but i was main parent carer for last ten yrs always did everthing with my kids even before that (the ex denied this) this was early march fast forward april ex does back in all of sudden im capabale again
and got youngest 13yr old every fri sat night
till we have argument now it revered bk to court order
why cant fathers have equal time with there kids theres 365 days in year
im in part time job at present want to go full time job on top maybe job 4 days on 4 days off mention to ex to change my days she said no way to much in my favour (but im getting my children now when she goes to work so its all in her favour anyway
plus she would revert back to what court says on contact just to get max csa she basicy told me this
if she done this im homeless as csa dont allow for things like rent and normal stuff
im in private accomation 3 bed on my own ( as ex already said for me to have kids sleeping each needs room of there own even thou they have not got that at exs
im paying very cheap rate from friend at present benefits pay most of it as im on p/time wages if i go full time i lose benefits and ex is entiled to25% CSA which would leave me not enough to live
ive just want to start having life and being able to afford to take my children out
ex is already showering them with gifts to get them on side
Hi there vinny
I think as you are getting regular contact and overnights, you might find that returning to court won't get you any more contact....your ex is likely to put up further barriers and more allegations...just my opinion though.
As you mentioned, she will give way and offer more when you are getting on, so perhaps the best way to go is to avoid arguments in the future, just keep any conversations about the kids and if you are offered more just take it. The less you have to do with her the less likely you are to fall out. Even if there are times when she is being unreasonable, try and ignore it and don't rise to it...that way you won't get into arguments that will lead to her using the kids against you.
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