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Lately my ex have been saying she talked to her lawyer and that if I don't be involved then I won't see my child once she is born. I go to every appointments she allow me to and I offer to do heavy stuff at her place if she even need it but she have to let me know. But every time we talk about the baby, she belittle me. I talked to my lawyer and she said the judge is not gonna care us fighting but more on the baby and that I wanna be involved.
Hi There,
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The judge will be looking at what is best for the child and not what is best for the 2 of you, don't get me wrong they would prefer if you could be civil with each other so that things are made easier, but in the end it's about having both parents in the childs life.
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I would be careful though with how much contact you make if you are starting to argue about things or your ex could file for a harrasment order (a non molestation order) if that happens then it will make things a lot harder for you.
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GTTS
I actually not responding to anything she say that isn't about the child but once I answer that relate to the child, she then go off on me how I'm deadbeat dad, saying false things and I had few of her friends message me on her phone saying I'm a deadbeat dad and that I'm playing some sort of game. Right now I been going to every appointment she allow me to go, I keep every conversations small. But she saying to me that she is talking to her lawyer and that she can make sure I can never be in the child life and even make my family not in the child life if I don't do stuff for her. I offer everytime, if you need anything let me know and let me know if anything happened to the child after every appointments. Every other day I would message her to see how she is and the baby.
Hi There,
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Ensure you keep ALL messages that are both sent and recieved between you, so that you can back up what you have said, and what replies you get, if things turn naasty and you end up in court then these will help as you will be able to transcride them and use them as evidence.
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GTTS
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