[Solved] Is it time to put my foot down?

My story is not unusual sadly.

Partner walked out with the children seven months ago and it has been an uphill battle all the way.

Briefly....

There was no violence in the relationship, no alcohol, no drugs. All in all we were very respectful of each other. We had two children in 2015 and within 4 months of them being born she had gone from the perfect partner to a shouting, screaming wreck.

I lost it with her once or twice and shouted back, nothing too bad but certainly shouting.

When she left she went into hiding and had me arrested for texting her. I was charged with harassment and tried some months later but found not guilty. The magistrates did grant a restraining order though. I appealed this recently and although the appeal failed, the judge said he understands why I appealed, he is certain I am a dedicated and loving father and I have been totally vindicated of any crime. He went on to say he has considered the evidence I put before him and accepts it - showing she lied to the police and the courts. He said he could not lift the order as technically, based on the evidence they heard at the time, the magistrates acted correctly. No costs were awarded to the CPS.

I have recently received an enhanced DBS search as Ive been doing some charity work for a local organisation who help separated families. That DBS cert specifically says I am approved to work in child contact centres with children on my own.

I have had two mental health assessments since this all began, all clear.

There was a CAFCASS S7 which could go either way - two options were given:

A) If I am telling the truth (which I am) - I get the 50-50 Shared Care I asked for

B) If she is telling the truth (which she isn't) - The Court should grant supervised contact and be guided by the reports.

Supervised is now almost at an end, just one more session left. It was ordered as it was mentioned in both options above.

The reports are GLOWING - literally glowing - 40 pages of "he took care of their needs emotionally and physically and made lovely smiley faces at them which they reciprocated" and "they gazed intensely at him with a loving look" and "he sung to them, looking at them all the time with such loving warmth"

The contact supervisor said "these reports speak for themselves".

So, her allegations were that I'm mentally unwell, I can't cope with the children or put their needs above my own, I drink to excess, I was verbally abusive to her, I controlled her for the entire relationship and that I "touched her" while she slept.

I will be taking the contact reports in, the DBS certificate, some excerpts from the recent Crown Court summing up, and other evidence. Also previously submitted are mental health reports showing I'm sane as can be, bank statements showing I contributed my fair share to the household (she said I paid nothing in her statement),

Oh also, she has been supported by the womens refuge since day one - on an outreach basis. I have no idea why.

For my part, I have been told from day one by five different professionals that I suffered abuse from her for the entire relationship - I thought she was just bossy to be honest. I do have a letter though from a male refuge confirming they have been supporting me and their assessment shows I am a survivor of domestic abuse. This is backed up by a letter from a counsellor who says I am exhibiting the signs he sees in other abuse survivors.

She recently got legal on the back of the restraining order but I have challenged this with the LAA - awaiting answers on that.

A fact find is scheduled for two weeks after the next hearing but at the last hearing the judge specifically said he didn't think we should put ourselves through the ordeal.

I can evidence and disprove most of what she alleges. She really has gone to town on me but stupidly forgotten what a digital hoarder I am - I have copies of everything we ever did together.

All I want, ultimately, is to raise the children and protect them from whatever has gone wrong with her.

Given the story and the tests I've passed and the evidence I have...I do think I have a good chance but would love any advice / opinions on tactics here.

She denied me contact for six month by the way and did exactly this to her other child's father - for three years!

Anyone?