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It's so hard o know due to the breakdown and his friendly support in court focusing more upon trying to calm and refocus him than what was said / agreed.
I would be a lot happier if the report was drafted by the Court and sent for agreement to both parties rather than Mothers Solicitor? I'm considering ringing Court tommorow to make a direct enquiry as to hy the report is coming from them as they can hardly be said to be independent and unbiased?
it was clearly stated that ,the Court wished to follow the revcomendations in the CAFFCASS report and the two main ones were 1. alternate weekends and it seems clear the Court agreed with this recommendation 2. Review of progression to overnight stays by BOTH. Parents after 6 months - which is not clearly addressed at all? Therefore I assume if it is not an order , it is. Not. Enforceable and their is no comeback six monypths from now or whenever?
Found something pertinent here from ILex guide to best practice when dealing with LIP's
"When the court makes its decision it will usually ask a party who has a lawyer acting for them to draw up the necessary court order. When the court makes an order, both you and the other side’s lawyers need to be clear about what the order requires everyone to do. The other side’s lawyer will draft the order for the judge and will send you a copy so that you can inform the judge if there are any parts of the order that you think do not reflect what the court decided"
The full report this came from is a useful reference source with lots of support / advice links so I will try and post that to you Mojo
Update - yes it was too late . I Actually spoke to the Judge about this who was friendly nd helpful and said he could see and understand how badly being denied access to his Son had upset Chris and how he felt he was very genuine in wanting to be a good Father.
But too late to change , new application would be needed as now set in stone. Until , that is , several weeks later a mistake in the report was noted about access being on Sundays rather thn as agreed in Courts on Saturday. Document was no longer set in stone all copies had to be re-issued with correction.
Just about sums up the hypocrisy and bias inherent throughout.
so how have things been nearly 2 years later?
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