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I went to pick my son up as usual this afternoon and my exes place is empty. 2 weeks ago she said in passing how would I feel if she moves 160 miles away which for obvious reasons I said no chance. (Her new boyfriend lives there, no other ties) We only have a private arrangement for the past 6 years where I have my 7 year old son 2 nights a week every Weds and a night over the weekend plus additional time during holidays.
I think she has moved to prevent me getting a preventative steps order in place. I presume she has moved him out of school without my permission too and sorted school down there again I have had no input to this.
At present I have no idea where my son is living and what school he is going to go to? She doesn't drive so I would have to pick him up 3 hours each way in good traffic so 12 hours on the road of a weekend having a massive impact on the quality time me and my son get to spend together. Not to mention the financial strain this would place on me limiting the things I can do with my son.
I'm completely broken right now but is there anything I can do legally? Retrospective Preventative Steps Order? I feel this is so deeply unfair and cannot be right that someone can pull your heart out like this and there is nothing you can do about it? I have parental responsibility.
Thanks for your advice.
Hi
that's an appalling situation to be in, I can't imagine what you are going through at the moment.
I think it would be worth giving the Corams Childrens Legal Centre a call for free legal advice as to what your options are (they can be quite busy so persist in calling them) - obviously the first priority is to find out where they have gone.
As actd says, give Coram a call.
I doubt you can get a retrospective PSO but you might need to apply to court to see the children if you are unable to contact your ex. If you're not able to find them yourself, you can apply to court on a C100 form for contact and a C4 for a find and seek order.
Good luck and just ask if there's anything else you'd like to know.
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