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Hi there,
At the first hearing I want to ask the judge to restore the arrangements me and the ex agreed on for contact. We agreed them at mediation and they were in place for 2 months with no problems until she received the court papers. Then all contact was cancelled.
I've put it as a request to the judge in my position statement. Is it worth adding a separate piece of evidence showing the weekly contact by date and how it increased and that there's been no issues over the last 6 months just steady progress. Or will her false accusations overrule everything.
Agree with Slim.
Sounds like mediation went well for you. I take it mediation must have broke down and yourself or your ex decided to go down the route of court.
All the evidence you have is brilliant stuff. Make sure you attach it as it shows that it was working previously. The only difference now is.. when a court order is written it will be a 'court order' she will have to obey by the rules and like Slim once said to me.. she will 'cave' in 🙂
Good luck do keep us all informed on progress.
Cheers mate
Mediation went ok until she wouldn't consider overnight stays then the mediator said get legal advice. The solicitor said what I am asking for was reasonable I put that to the mediator and she refused to carry on so I'm taking her to court. Now she's claiming I hurt one of her other kids with eye for eye discipline and that's what I'll be defending myself against I presume.
I had all that, as soon as I took it to court she threw every false accusation at me including the kitchen sink she said I'd hurt her other daughter, two of her nephews apparently I was a thug and no fit dad because I've had my nose broke a few times it got comical the best was when I went away dj'ing when it all got too much she photo copied pics of me having a ball behind the decks and slapped them on the judges bench shouting "look look you can tell he's a drug addict he's a DJ!!!" lol
the Judge turned round with a smile on his face and said "did you have a good time mr slim? it certainly looks like it" hahaha! her face was a picture 🙂
The court will ask why she didn't report any abuse to the authorities they did with my ex cafcass will do back ground checks ect too so all the false accusations will be dealt with in time it just takes time and a lot of patience I honestly wouldn't worry about all the false [censored] which gets thrown your way it's all just hot air I found I worried about all that too much and I should of just concentrated on building myself a good case as I said befor the courts have seen it a million times over.
Slim 🙂
Cheers again
I can only think of one event in 3 years where I accidentally hurt one of the kids, by hurt I mean an equivalent of a bruise nothing sinister. Do you argue your side of the story or deny it. Rule of thumb I prefer to tell the truth
Hi Dale.
It is likely before you attend court you should receive an cafcass report. This is off the basis of what you talked with the Cafcass officer. They will look at if you have a record. What your like etc. They will summarise if there are any concerns... However if there isn't your half way there to having it your way!
Saying the truth is always healthy atleast you can sleep well at night. Advise is to ignore your ex and past issues and concentrate on contact and willing to do anything in the court... It might take a bit of time before overnight but when it's set in stone you will be glad.
good luck.
You can get caught out telling a lie, but not telling the truth. Always the best way IMO.
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