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HI all
Short background
Single dad,
3 kids
1 with first partner call her A separated 6 years ago (age 10 now)
2 with ex wife Call her B (currently divorcing)
My eldest now live for past 4 months with me due to abuse from his mother.
While for the past 1 year I was divorcing, my ex wife B, our separation was hard, when I ask her to leave she then few weeks after done a NMO and residency order, base on false accusation this was used in my view to control access over our children.
After her NMo served I issue a cross nmo as my solicitor felt I was the victim.
In the return hearing she droped her residency as she knew she couldnt afford the rent and keeping the home and decided to stay living with her parent but refused to drop her NMo, I drop my as request for undertake, I didnt want to hurt someone that I loved and care for. Now judge said we both wasting our children inheritance and I felt he was right and wanted to focus on the children, she turn back and said she wanted her nmo to stay as she can then get council house as kids are with her.
I couldnt afford solicitor so (stupid) agreed by consent, but judge said no finding and no admission was made.
during our custody battle this was reapeated again and again as magistrate felt no need fact finding as the allegation are not substentiated but she keep played victim to get support (womain aids stuff)
anyhow
At christmas 2018, when i was due to see the children with supervision (a social worker was present and her father) sjhe impose on been present.
I didnt really want but couldnt say nothing as if not she cancelled, anyhow she offer me present and gift to me and my son. Me and my boy wrote her a christmas card that my son and I signed. My boy give to her she thanks kiss him to me that was nice of all of us. BUT
3 weeks 15/01/19 later police call me for interview, I was alledge to have breach the nmo for the card.
Her solicitor send me a letter that was dated 13th that it as an unintended breach and not to do again.
I explain the police it was a xmas card and she gave us present I didnt appoach her or spoken to her.
They told me between corridor its (bulshit but they have to deal with it)
they pass that to the cps apparently.
now or CAO gona by and after 6 hearing and final hearing I gain share care every other week end and half holliday. Happy as it was so hard for the past 10 months.
Anyhow, has now my ex partner A as abused my son social servce done letter supporting him to live with me etc..
But cafcass on their letter that said same make mention of police record
-impending prosecution for breach of non molestation order-
now we are june 19th apparently the breach was 27/12/18.
almost 6 month later I never heared anything from police or cps but this recent letter worry me
the NMo is due to expire in 7 weeks and I worry that I will get procecuted for that after 6 month heard nothing back from police or cps.
Question is
What is this mean?
How long will it take for CPS to tell me if I did wrong, will i get to court for a card?
I fear she will use that to stop the order that give me access to our children, this was such a hard battle and cost me so much in time, money, emotion I cant do it no more.
is there a dead line for cps to action?
Why is this on the report still, can this be used for her or by her?
Please help
thanks so so much.
I think that the only agency that can help you with this matter are the police, I would give them a call and ask them if you can have clarification about it as you were given the impression that it was NFA.
Hi all
Yes will do but I was advise that they have 3 months to decide on whether to prosecute or not.?!?
I will wait anyway nmo finish in 6 weeks to call.
It has been almost 6 month now that she reported a breach for a Christmas card !
Once the nmo is over I will chase that and get this finish once for all.
Like my solicitor said I would be falling of my chair if any cps or court where presented with that and decide to charge. It is ridiculous and not worth anything.
But I won’t have to tell you that this was pushed and supported by social service to build a case against me as she had absolutely nothing as evidence or proof of her claim and after 6 court hearing and the trial wasn’t able to bring nothing.
The judge on the trial even told her that this is nothing to do with the child arrangement order processing and if she had any issue she should have made a claim to the FLA but haven’t so far done any.
I m bothered but actually didn’t actually expected less from her.
This is what happened when you out of a fight against someone that has all those feminazi behind them.
Like her supper worker said to me when she got kicked out of court for lying,
We will always support woman and there children.
Judge-they are his children too and nothing in his character and life has demonstrated he can’t care for his children.
Response well he breach the order !
Judge - was he prosecuted so far? Has a this cause threat or harm?
Why did she gave him present and was also present personally to his contact when she claim she was scared?
S.worker This is harassment and cause her emotional stress.
Everyone, look at her.... sure that must have been terrible experience,
But did she not send a text and email thanking him for it ? I guess she is over it then.
Next....
Anyway welcome to the justice system where anyone can claim anything and based on words and backed up by nothing you can destroy a family.
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