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Hi All,
Im at a loss as to what to do.
The other day I was asked to collect my son from a resturant (for my visit) instead of his house. (which is fine)
Problem is, its a harvester and the area she's in there are loads. I;ve asked for the name of the resturant this morning and or a post code and have yet to get a reply.
Problem is this:- long story really short, last night I took three calls from her family members, they were not particularly nice calls, in fact quite the opposite.
In a nutshell, my ex is not willing to face me to hand my son over, her mother is going to. (So ive been told)
Problem is, I have no idea where this place is... I sent an SMS to my ex to ask but no reply. I have limited time with his as it is. So, what do I do???
Mmmm....Could be the closest one to her house?
You could wait somewhere close to her house and tail them as they leave or just turn up at the house if they havent sent you the details of the harvester.
I think that I would consider communicating to them that as you havent recieved the details of the harvester you will attend the property. If your concerned that there may be a breach of the peace inform the Police before hand. If they think that you are going to the property they may give you the details sharpish.
Sounds like they are messing with your mind.
Dont flap, just ask and tell them if you havent recieved the details by a certain time, maybe 30 minutes before, then you will be on the doorstep.
Regards,
Dave
I think there is going to be mass arguments. -- To which my reply will be to them "i'm just her to collect my son" and keep reperting myself. If they carry on, I will then also state that they are incroaching on my time with my son! and attempt to leave/
My plan I think, is to locate the harvester I think it is (she gave me the district) and arrive on time as planned and send her an SMS to say im in the car park.
They have not confirmed when im meant to bring him back as there was a choice of two times. Aghhhhh!!!!
If there was a choice of two times, go for the later one :whistle:
I think it might be worth you getting a new (cheap) second phone and using that for contact with your ex - that way you can switch it off when you don't want to hear from them. Gives you back some control over the situation.
I arrived there at the allotted time, no son to be seen
Sent her a text asking for post code or at least the name of that harvester
Departed work on time - got stuck in traffic, so sent another SMS informing her was going to be slightly late
Arrived 10 mins late but sent text to say i was outside restaurant as agreed
waited 15 mins - No one to be seen
Did not enter restaurant as i was informed that she did not want to "face" me and that her mother would bring him out to me.
No one came out - went home and initiated mediation proceedings with a strong view to get to court as this is the only way she will learn
Well, keep the texts and times etc. Here's hoping that mediation will work - I certainly would be arguing against her mother being the go-between as that isn't working.
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