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Ok I apologise in advanced for bad spelling or punctuation
Here goes my ex had me arrested last week on Tuesday the 14th of June after I went round her house to go and visit my son after she messaged me saying that day after we already arranged for me to come round and see our son,
"can you come over tomorrow as I'm seeing Joshy baby"
I explained to her no I can't as I'm working at 2pm and isn't more important that our son gets to spend with his dad and you got all the time in the world to see Joshy baby
Anyways so after a exchange in text messages im getting more worried and anxious to see my son as he hasn't been to well by not being able to [censored] and not long had his mmr injections too
So I go to her house and walk in (please also bare in mind we had already been separated a week) so I walk in the house just through old habits as everyone used to just walk in our house she and her friend was sat down on the sofa I go over to were my son was and say I wanna take him... Without me having the chance to finish off what else I had to say she gets up and stops me from going anywhere near him she then asks me to leave I'm at this point saying no please let me see him for a little bit she then gets on the phone to her dad and her friend then gets on the phone to the police and goes to the other side of the room
now her dad isn't the nicest of people from the stories she told me about how he almost strangled her mum and almost killed her and in the past when me n my ex have had a row (just before my son was born) he's come in guns blazing also has came to my mums house before wanting to punch me anyways sorry I'm getting of track here
So my ex is ringing her dad so what I believe for him to come round and sort me out me out I
'm now trying to wrestle with her to take her phone off her this time I got her phone and put it down my trousers she at this point is saying give me my phone give me my [censored] phone so after the numerous times she kept asking for her phone and would not talk or listen to me and what had to say and saying the same thing, " I think ok have your phone" so throw it to the kitchen side then miss but lucky I found out its not damaged so she picks her phone off the floor and starts to ring her dad up again so this time I'm then proper wrestling with her (not wwe style) trying grab her phone and her friend is still ringing the police and at this point has picked my son up from his bouncy chair so I'm wrestling with her trying to get her phone I'm stood behind her and she has the phone clenched to her stomach kneeling over and I'm trying to grab the phone off her she then topples to the floor and starts screaming down the phone like I mean proper screaming I get off her in shock to be like what the [censored] she then runs to the otherside of the room I have no idea what has just happened as this point so I then think fine ok I'm gonna leave I then start walking away from the house and from her I then later get arrested because she had red marks on her arms and charged with assult by beating as I later found out through the duty solicitor thar she and her friend had been saying I punched her and she let out this bloodcurdling scream I was like no I never punched her at all I swear down still I wouldn't hit her I'm not that sort of person I come from being raised by a single mother so why would I hit a woman especially the mother of my child so I'm currently on bail and I'm not allowed any form of contact with her and I haven't seen or heard anything about my son in aweek she has now point blankly told my mum today she doesn't want me near him and she won't let me see him and if my mum wants to see him then she can go to the house which again because of my bail conditions I'm not allowed I'm in a real [censored] position here and I promise on my 4 month old sons life I never punched/hit her at all I really need help Im currently feel like suicide would be a easier option then go through with this [censored]
Hi
From what you have said, you are not in a good position at all. To be honest, I think you need to act on the advice of the duty solicitor to sort out the immediate issues, before you start to look at your position with regards to contact with your son.
Don't think of suicide,you have a four months old son. And i wouldnt give her the satisfaction This woman is showing her true colours making up lies about you. Your better off without her. Get yourself a good solicitor firstly to defend these false charges and secondly for access to your child.
Hi There,
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As ACTD has said, from what you have written, you aren't in a strong position, I know I don't need to tell you that even though you had the right intensions, by doing what you did you have put yourself on the back foot especially as she had friends there that can back up the story and say what she wants them too.
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You are going to have to be fully compliant of the order against you, you do still have rights to see your child, but things will be more of a challenge now, but it is still possible.
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Follow what has been ordered to the letter, get some advice on how to move forward against your charges, it's going to be tough without seeing your child, but you are going to have to be strong and deal with the charges first before trying to gain some contact.
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GTTS
Firstly when you called to your ex's house you shouldn't have just walked in as you no longer live there.you should have knocked. Then you demanded to see your son which seemed aggressive. When she said no and began to ring her dad you should have left and told her that you will contact solicitor for access to you son and this access would not be in her house. You wrestling with her to get the phone off her in front of her friend was a big mistake as you have gave them a reason to claim assault and now she has bruises on her arms.don't go to her house again as even if she's alone she could claim you raped her or something. Get smart and get a solicitor.
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