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my girfriend gave birth to our daughter 8 weeks ago and cause my girlfriend is only 16 she still lives at home with her mum and i ive at home with my mum. My girfriends mum dislikes me and cause of this she has made her daughter register our daughter behind my back and im nt named on birth certificate which has now left me with n rights whatsoever as her father.
her mum will not allow my girlfriend to stay overnight with me at my home and has threatened her with social services and has told her she will stop and of my family having contact with my daughter.
this is obviously causing problems cause all i want is my name to be on birth certificate and for me to have the right to be a father to my daughter. my girlfriend is scared of her mum so will not go against anything she says even though its causing you to drift apart.
i dont know what to do from here i want my rights as a father so i can see my daughter and it not have anything to do ewith her mother. i love my daughter and i am missing out on so much.
Hi there
I'm sorry to hear that you are being pushed out by your daughters grandmother in this way. She probably thinks she is protecting your girlfriend, at 16 she is still very young and as she is living at home she is still dependent on her mother.
Do you get to see your girlfriend and baby during the day? At 8 weeks your baby will be sleeping most of the time but if you have contact with her during the day time this will still help you to bond with her.
Here's a link to a Parental Responsibility Agreement, you and your girlfriend could do this without her mother needing to know. You just need to fill out the form together and take it to the registry office with proof of identity and the original birth certificate.
I think you may be able to get your name on the birth certificate too, but I would speak to the Registrar about how to do this.
Best of luck
How old are you? If you were over 18 and your girlfriend under 16 when she conceived, then if her mother chooses to raise a concern with social services, they would have to investigate.
But that doesn't mean you (or your girlfriend) will necessarily be in trouble. Romeo and Juliet rules in the UK will take into account your girlfriends feelings. I think you just need to refuse to be cowed by her mother.
I am 17 and girlfriend is now 16 but was 15 and girlfriend won't go against her mum so unfortunately we have split so I'm on my own
id like to offer some advice.
your a father work get a job or get some money coming in... also keeps u focussed and not dwelling on it..
you have 2 choices.
courts. ive done 3 years and I get 3 hours every 2 weeks - its bs
or
have a family member/close friend on ur side... that talks to her side...ur legal rights needs to be heard and understood.
I highly recommend option 2 I know people to have this arrangement and u see ur kid..
good luck and whatever u do just keep it moving.. positive steps always.
Thank you for advice I do try keeping myself busy so don't dwell but its hard cause I've lost the girlfriend I adore and feel like I'm going to end up losing my daughter too.
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