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My son is almost 10 yrs old, and has stayed with me every weekend from since his mum and I broke up six years ago. I'm becoming increasingly concerned by his behaviour, and there are numerous indications that his basic self care skills and needs are not being encouraged or met by his mum. When I have raised concerns with her previously she has refused to listen and has become very angry, resulting in us getting nowhere.
Last night I sat down with the intention of writing down my concerns in order that I can try to address them through a structured dialogue with her. By the time i finished I had six and a half sides of A4, and felt physically sick. I feel that, even in a much abbreviated form, these concerns will only anger her, and will be subsequently ignored. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can proceed please?
Hi NRD
I'm not sure what to advise here as I think in the first instance, it might be better to speak to someone in person, rather than list everything on here. In another post, the CCLC have given a link to the NSPCC, and it may be that they (NSPCC) would be a good place to start as you will be able to speak to them in confidence.
Keep us posted on your progress, and if you have specific questions, we would be more than happy to help, so ask away.
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