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We separated before child was born in 2017.
Mother then ceased all contact with me and stopped me from seeing my child - I didn't even know when they were born.
I took her to court so I can see my child and also asked the court to order a change of surname so it would be a double barreled surname (Initially it was only the mother's surname. I asked for mother's surname + Father's surname). Court agreed and ordered mother to do this.
I self litigated vs her and her lawyers.
3 years have now passed. How do I check if this court ordered has been followed and this name has been legally changed.
She still does not communicated much / at all with me, so asking her directly won't work.
Thanks in advance.
Hi,
Are you involved with kids school? Can check with them. If your details are registered with their GP, can ask for their medical records
@bill337
Hi, thank you for your reply.
Unfortunately, I am not involved and don't know much about her school, and same with the GP situation.
They live 100+ miles from me.
Any advice on this please?
Unfortunately, the only way to enforce this would be to go back to court, and to do that, you would need to be able to show that she has ignored the order. Without any proof that she has done so - and it sounds like you are not aware that she hasn't - I can't see that there is anything you can do. I would have thought that trying to get more involvement with your daughter would be the first step.
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