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Hi There,
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I think if you are going to use an MF then get one that is experienced rather than your friend, I would say that I am pretty on the ball and switched on when it comes to divorce but I'm not legally trained and I wouldn't want to go up against a solicitor in court as they would destroy me, and I would imagine even if your friend is very much on the ball, without the legal knowledge of divorce he would be in the same position as I would be.
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GTTS
Always take legal advice on matters of finance.
This is most true. For one thing, if a 'mistake' is made and you suffer financially then compensation is possible.
Divorce is more complicated than child arrangements (legally speaking) and finances are a major component of this.
While you may feel your case is simple (few assets etc) do not underestimate the complexities of finances!
Hello Gooddad75,
Financial matters can be resolved at mediation therefore avoiding going to court.
Your Ex's solicitor should give you a choice of at least three mediators.
If you look to get a resolution at mediation, I personally would find a good solicitor for the day and furnish him / her with all the evidence you can find. I would also seek the opinion of your solicitor regarding the calibre of the three mediators named, then make your preferred choice known. Ask the solicitor how much he will charge you for the day.
If you gather all documentation to prove your points with regard to what is in dispute, your Ex will not find it so easy to influence and probably not achieve what she thinks she can.
Thanks for the advice Mother of a Farther. no i didnt get 3 options just an offer of one. Im going to see them next week for a solo hearing to see if mediation is viable option knowing my former wife she will be withholding and circumnavigating the truth so i feel this is just a box ticking exercise. She will still be playing the Single mother living in rented card. struggling to get on the ladder so needs more than her fair share out of the equity "for the benefit of the kids" Hows about my dear sharing parental care 50/50 to enable you to work more. Or actually moving on with dignity with your boyfriend of 3 years and declare that you are cohabiting........ So frustrating. could of been sorted years ago.
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