[Solved] HOW CAN I REASSURE MY DAUGHTER WHEN MUM LEAVES

Hey mate

Not sure what advice I can give you but when I saw my little boy after 6 weeks of not seeing him he would not come to me so I basically just threw him about (in a good way that is lol) and tickled him to get him used to who I was then took him for a little walk then he was fine, in the car and away we went but reading about your session last week I don't think you will have a problem as you said she toddled over to you and the bond was still there, I think it just may be nerves and anxiousness setting in being the second lot of contact but you have nothing to worry about mate honestly

Yeah I'm probs just worrying too much I just want to make sure everything goes smoothly as possible as my EX will use anything against me when we are back in court, My Daughter loved all the toys I got her in her little Toy box so I think I'll whip them out if she starts crying ect and I'll follow up with some bread sticks if she'd still upset lol

I noticed she loves trains and cars which drive on there own as she loved chasing them round the contact centre which were amongst the toys already there so I think I'll get her a big battery powered Thomas the Tank Engine too for next week 🙂

Thomas the Tank Engine, will you buy me one as well as I loved that program, I could be the Fat Controller lol. Yeah I am sure mate that she will be fine without her mum there plus you can relax more as well without being watched by the ex.

Its just nerves though having her on your own but you know you will be ok anyway, she knows who you are and you still have the bond together, it will go more smoothly than what you think and she wont notice her mum gone with you both having fun together

Me too love thomas I've got a full Train track set which is clockwork and made out of tin it the '00' Gauge one of the first Hornby train sets ever produced I've got 2 engines 4 carrages loads of track level crossings stations the works it's been passed down through the generations so when she's older I'm going to pass it on to her 🙂

Yeah I can't wait until we're alone together it was a nightmare with that sour faced cow sat there throughout the contact with a face like a bag of spanners trust me

Kids nowadays mate do not know what good tv is, Thomas the Tank Engine, Postman Pat, He-Man, Inspector Gadget, Bagpuss and the list goes on!

I can imagine what it was like having eyes on you all the time, would [censored] me off as well but the end result is that she wont be there next week so you can have a more relaxed atmosphere.

One thing I will say is you got to get her into proper music though not the club stuff lol, Motley Crue, Skid Row, Tesla, Led Zeppelin 🙂

Kids nowadays mate do not know what good tv is, Thomas the Tank Engine, Postman Pat, He-Man, Inspector Gadget, Bagpuss and the list goes on!

.....Andy Pandy, Bill and Ben, Magic Roundabout, Secret Squirrel, Sqiddly Diddly, Atom Ant..... 😀

Well her dad is a dj her mum can dj (we used to dj together) her grandad and her 2 great uncles are also dj's so it's going to be in her blood 🙂 I've also taught her 5 year old sister how to mix and her 3 cousins lol 🙂

I'm just looking on ebay, I want to buy her two of them old skool fisher price nursery rhyme record players so I can get her started early hahaha!

The EX did mellow slightly through the session as at first she started off calling me a F****ing C**t and by the end she was calling me a t**t and a W***er so she did mellow a little lol

..... by the end she was calling me a t**t and a W***er so she did mellow a little lol

😀 😀 😀

actd now your showing your age 😀 obviously with me being so young and hip I don't remember those :p

Slim her music taste will be great but at least tell her about some Glam Rock lol and yeah your ex progressed from C**t to W****R lol, just goes to show the kind of woman she is but you have won mate and now you are getting what you are deserved...........you got your daughter back after all that time

James the cat, jimbo the jet, Fragle rock, the wonder years, happy days, the wombles. bit before my time yours ACTD lol

The EX was been quite mild mannered as I think she toned it down as she was in a contact centre, she really went for it before during and after the court on tuesday infront of the ushers, court staff and the public I felt embarresed for her :/

think best advise is not to panic my wife and I have a young child and when we leave them with nursery or nanny they cry every time but I am always told it's for seconds and with a distraction they are fine,

However this only happened from around 18 months before could leave them with strangers in the street and baby wouldn't utter a sound very worrying actually so she may very well not have any separation anxiety at this stage but if she does

She may cry but distraction is the best thing try not to give the crying to much attention like "oh dear oh no their their" just ignore it and start showing her things and even signing a little or something that interrupts her

Your be fine thin positive stay positive ( need to take that advise myself lol )