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Hi guys, Apologies if I have posted in the wrong area, this is my first post but I need help quickly. I am going to court in a few weeks to ask for a contact order to be established. Long complicated story but I have a daughter who is 6 and when she was 4 years old I discovered she was being allowed to sleepover 2 nights each week, and go away for one week every year with her "other Dad" This other guy is actually the ex of my mothers daughter and I didnt know he was allowed to play such a big part in my daughters life. It was kept a secret for 4 years. We only found out by accident when we saw her wandering down the road with a stranger but it turned out it was this guy who introduced himself as her "other Dad" !! Anyway for the last year I have only been allowed to see my Daughter for 20 minutes on Christmas Eve so after months of phone calls, emails, letters and pleas to my ex and her solicitor I have no choice but to go to court. I need to see my Daughter and she needs her Dad in her life. When we did have regular contact last year, the last thing my Daughter did was cry because she wanted to stay at my home with me and my Wife, who fully supports me. (I have been married for almost 5 years and my Daughter and Wife get on so well)
Sorry to ramble but the point Im trying to clarify is does anyone know where/who I can contact to establish what our "jurisdiction" is? Am i right in believing my Daughter cannot be removed from the jurisdiction without my consent (I have parental responsibility too) I know she is due to be taken away tomorrow by this other Dad and her Mother doesnt go with her. I am very anxious and concerned that so many people indulge my Daughters mother and let her think this is ok while she has no contact with her biological father, despite her being very involved with my family/my wife's family.
Any help or advice of someone I can contact today??
I appreciate any help. Thanks.
Hi
I'll move this to the legal thread. Unfortunately, it's too late now to contact anyone, but I would suggest that you contact the CCLC (link at the bottom of the forum) for their webchat facility on Monday, but can you post back here to say how you got on?
Hi,
If you are looking to have involvement, you should raise a Contact Application at the earliest opportunity.
Regarding Jurisdictions, essentially in order for her to travel overseas technically your ex would need the permission of all who have PR for her. There's ways around it and i've never heard of a Mum being imprisoned for taking children away on holiday despite refusals from Dad but i have heard of Dads being jailed for "abduction" the other way... so its a delicate point.
I suppose the biggest question is: What do you actually want to happen regarding your Daughter?
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