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Hi guys,
Kind of at a loss as to where to turn now...
My ex partner and I split up about 6months ago. We own a house together, but she willingly moved out with our two kids, to rented accommodation close by.
Two weeks ago I got a message asking if she could come round and collect our daughters bike, I replied and said that it would be better for me to get it out of the shed as I know where it is. I went home the a few days later to find the conservatory doors had been left wide opened - I immediately thought the house had been burgled, but it turns out that my ex had been back in to the house, taken the bike and left the doors wide open.
We had a massive argument about this and this led to her telling me she can come back in to the house whenever she wants. I've read numerous articles on the internet about this and her right to access, and also about my human right to privacy.
So the question is... Can I change the locks? She's been gone a good while now, there's nothing left in that house that is hers. In fact, I have paid for the house since it was purchased, and invested my money in to the renovation of the house.
I now have no idea where I stand.
I’m not a lawyer, but from a legal standpoint, I can’t see why you wouldn’t be able to change the locks.
From a practical standpoint, I don’t see what you have to gain from it ? You two have two children, and having arguments with your ex is not going to help them. Even when you are right, it’s better to let go and keep the peace, it will help you over the long term.
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