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According to order, from 2019 all school holidays will be shared.
My initial thinking this means 50/50 and in the final hearing this was the idea. However i fear my ex will now argue that "shared" does not equal 50/50 since 60/40 is still technically shared.
As i said in the final hearing 50/50 was what was agreed but looking back in the order it does not clearly say this. It just says holidays will be shared.
Appreciate i sound a tad crazy and paranoid but this is what my ex is like, constantly trying to find loop holes to reduce my contact.
Any advise appreciated.
As the order states shared then 50/50 would be the presumption but as you've said 60/40 or even less is still technically sharing.
Not what you want to hear and certainly not what the judge would have been meaning I'm sure but guessing the wording used was to allow a degree of flexibility in the order.
If you don't get 50/50 holidays then you could return to court to have the order varied to set specifc dates / times etc. But better to have tried to get the ex to agree before it gets to that.
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