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Hi Guys
Im full of questions currently, as im preparing my case in court. So thanks for bearing with me.
I've seen somewhere on here a few terms in regards to taking the children overseas and they seem quite relaxed.
My ex wants to know the date and times of flights inc numbers, the hotel name, she wants to know everything a few months in advance and she wants at least 1 facetime per day morning or night. She tends to spend around 20-30 minutes on facetime with daughter every day while we are away. I daren't ask her for more than 7 nights away, during the times when she decides not to communicate with me I daren't ask at all hence us not having a family holiday at all this year unfortunately.
On the flip side she visits Turkey during the military coup, Gets caught up in a lightening storm and I can't get even 1 phone call to tell me she's safe. Her holidays are 14 days long, interfere with my weekends, are booked during term time and little to no advance given at times, Hardly seems fair.
What are my rights or what are some reasonable requests to put to the court?
Hols
It's tricky if she agrees you can even take them aborad that's more than what most dads can get without getting a specific order issue from court ,her on the other hand being the resident parent calls the shots and in her holiday time can give you as much of as little info as possible.
My advice don't rock the boat something's in life at not fair weather it's mothers and fathers or someone's race or culture just enjoy the good times ,you dont want to be battling for years in court compared to what you have now !
If you really wanted to tho you could get a order from court 2 weeks holiday In Spain for e g
And don't worry to much about her holidays overriding your weekends it's give and take when you go away for a week it's the same your you may want a holiday for 2 week's without the kids one day with the lads or other family it's life
I understand your point and where you are coming from. Understand also that things will be weighted in the favour of the mother in general. I'm just trying to work as closely as possible to get this drawn out as fair as poss so that we don't have any further issues to raise in court later down the line. Learnt the hard way from a very loose mediation parenting plan.
The time she takes her away doesn't bother me. So long as there is adequate notice, I make plans every weekend to do stuff but they are not respected.
If at least, just to stop having to facetime her daily whilst on holiday would be a blessing. This is most irritating for me and my sons as we all have to work around her. Would just like to relax while on holiday and forget about home (and the nagging voice of said ex!).
Just keep your head down mate while there young it's mother nature,when your child is older older 12 plus the child will have there own view ,what evers happens remain good friends with the mom no matter how hard it is at times ,think of the long run once there 18 plus you can take him/her forgot the gender round the whole world nothing can be done
If you get a judge that's happy to have a lot of definition written into the order, that's great and at the end of the day it can mean not having to return to court every time another "loophole" arises.
It's not too much to ask for a 50/50 share of all school holidays and to have a block of 2 weeks during the summer to allow for a foreign holiday. You could also ask that passports be handed over a month before to travel. I would also agree to let mum know when you're traveling and where you're staying, but ask for the same courtesy when she travels abroad. Suggest that face time be once a week whilst you are away, but expect it to be more....I agree that daily is too much and I can see that it could interfere with holiday activities.
I would also ask for alternate Christmas and birthdays, Father's Day if it doesn't fall in your contact time with your daughter and offer the same for Mother's Day.
All the best
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