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Thought i’d let you know how I went in Court last week. I have a 3 year old boy, split from his Mum when he was born. i have had overnights since 1. I was looking to get some holidays with my boy i’m the nursery holidays.
Things didn’t go well. Maybe I got the wrong Judge but he went through me as if asking for holidays with my child was wrong. I’ve no idea why they would view a Dad trying to take his Son away for a few days as so wrong. There are no concerns. He starts school next summer. I got an extra overnight midweek during the holidays. The child’s mother will take my son abroad. Kinda stinks.
I got made to feel like a rubbish as i’ve asked for my birthday, fathers day etc. with my boy. As if it was the dark ages. I’m on the feeling I just got wrong Judge. Feeling raw but i’ll continue to pursue them for my son. I believe it’s best for him.
That seems really unfair! I'd give it six months and try again, if there were any procedural errors, you could appeal on those grounds, you just can't appeal if you disagree with the outcome.
Sorry mate, stay strong and don't give up.
I often feel you have to take the punches along the way to move forward. Court does seem like it’s just funding the Lawyers pockets by keeping everything going round in circles.
I’ll be back on it in 6 months. It’s the end that matters.
I’m peeved my child will be told by her Mother when she’s older the Court ruled that denying him holidays to the beach etc was not in his best interests. I hope my son can see thats just silly and I was just trying to be Dad.
If I lose again I lose. I’ll have done the right thing.
I'm sorry to hear this and I'm totally shocked. I've never known a court deny a progressive schedule towards holidays or a share of special occasions.
I would definitely re apply or look to see if any procedural errors were made and appeal if you can.
I’m in Scotland. It appears how Courts handle it here is not well defined. I don’t see many great success stories from North of the border. Alternate or half of special occasions seems so simple but woah that bad day in Court is bad.
I’ll be back at a later point. To be truthful loss is fine as long as we’ve tried for our kids.
Our best is all that can be asked of us, you've got the right attitude... don't give up! Hopefully as your child gets older the courts and the mother might become more flexible.
All the best
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