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hi all
I currently have summer holiday arrangements split 3 weeks each.
1 week with me
2nd week with ex
3rd week with me
4th week with me
week 5 and 6 with her
I asked my ex if we could do a change to first 3 weeks with me and the other 3 weeks with her. But she has said no which I am not supprised about.
can I go back to court just to change this arrangement as I need to go India over these periods.
anybadvice would be welcome on how to pores with out losing contact.
Hi there
Yes you can go back to court but you will have to attempt to sort this out with mediation first, she may just agree if she realises that you are prepared to return to court on a Specific Issue Order.
An SIO is just what it says, you are asking the court to consider this issue.
If you want the change to be permanent and cover all summer holidays in the future, it might be better to apply for a variation of the existing order instead.
To be sure, give Coram a call and they will be able to advise you which would be the most appropriate order to apply for if you need to take court action. Here's a link
http://childlawadvice.org.uk/clas/contact-child-law-advice/
Hopefully though your ex will see sense and agree to be flexible.
Best of luck
How do parents of both sexes manage during school holidays when there's only one parent around? This dad might need to go to India for work, he could be self employed. I really don't think it's helpful to put the dad on the spot like this. Let's face it, she might well have said no just to be awkward!
Children miss their dads too, let's not put mothers on some sort of pedestal here.
Things happen and schedules have to be adjusted sometimes to accommodate this, what is in the childrens best interests is for both parents to work together and be flexible.
There are times when my daughter has to change child minding schedules, (dad not around) if her child is ill for instance, so schedules have to be changed at short notice and wider family and friends step in to help, even the child minder at times will change to help.
Lovingdaddy came here for specific advice, not to be questioned about his motives or rights to want some flexibility.
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