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Due to go to court soon against ex partner. Does anyone know the school holiday entitlement the court usually grants? Ex is basically saying I can only have my kids when I pay to take them abroad, but not have them during school holidays if staying at my house. I live under 10 minutes away from my kids so having them during school holidays wouldn’t be a disruption and they can still see their friends etc.
Please note - no court order currently in place but have always had my kids every weekend for at least 1 overnight visit a week and been able to take them on holiday abroad in the past. I just don’t find it fair that I have to cough up money to go away each time I want to see my kids during the holidays, surely I should be allowed to have them at my home during half terms and summer holidays etc too? No abuse or household concerns for ex to go on.
Hi There,
There is no set amount of time for school holidays, you could ask for 50/50 shared, and then if you get less then you are still a lot better off than you are now, I can't see any judge telling you that you can only have them if you take them abroad, that isn't how they work, they want both parents to be in the child's life and for the children to be able to spend time with both mum and dad.
GTTS
Absolutely agree with GTTS... she is being unreasonable and the court wouldn’t agree to her demands, what you decide to do with your children when they are with you, is up to you!
Best of luck
Thank you for the advice. Ex views school holidays as hers and hers only and I “borrow” kids when I want a holiday when she lets me. I want to be able to see them more during half term etc without having to jump through hoops. Have a strong feeling ex will not attend court, wondering how that will go down. Since commencement of legal proceedings, she has stopped access and it’s gutting not to see my kids at the weekend.
She's being very silly just stopping contact like that and it won't go in her favour in court. I've never heard anything so silly. Usually dads are fighting to be allowed to take their child abroad, not the other way round. Hang on in there, I know it's easier said than done, but you should get this resolved relatively quickly. Don't communicate with her verbally either. Stick to emails or texts so you have evidence.
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