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Hi,
I have a 5 year old daughter that I want to take on holiday in August, during the school summer holidays. I have a strained relationship with her mum, but we tend to settle our differences when it comes to arrangements about my daughter. We both have her best interests at heart.
I approached mum about taking my daughter away for 10 days in august, we had a civil email exchange about it and she agreed to the dates etc. All was going well until she asked where we were going. When I told her, she has decided it is to hot and she will not allow me to take her. We are hoping to go to Marrakech, and although it is warm, we have been before and know she will be fine.
We have no orders in place and have divorced and arranged the contact with my daughter through mediation.
So questions...
Can she do this?
Can she effectively decide where I can go on holiday by ruling out destinations for my daughter.
Can I ask her to take my daughter on holiday without telling her where we are going? I realise this is a bit sneeky, but if she is going to vet my holidays what else do I do?
Do I need her permission to go to a specific destination?
I would appreciate any advice about how to solve this.
I would say that you need to consider what would happen if you took your daughter away and lied about the destination - at the moment, you have a reasonable level of trust with your ex and that would disappear in an instant, and probably so would the level of contact you currently enjoy, and if it went to court, it would not look well for you.
At the moment, since you have sorted everything through mediation, then I would say that you need to go back and try this again - see if you can find what her objections are, and whether there is any way that you can allay any fears that she has.
Have you checked what temp it is during Aug? It's beneath a mountain range so might be cooler than you think. But having been there not sure a 5yr old would enjoy it place stunk of cat [censored] around the souks and you get pestered something rotten by the shop/stall owners and will target your child to get business off you.
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