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So I have been to court and have a court order in place
My court order states I have contact with my son every other weekend and 4 weeks holiday through the year
I have a weeks Holiday
Do my 7 days start on the friday when i collect my son on my weekend or do i have my weekend plus my 7 days
so 9 in total
Really confused as its a tricky one
Thanks Jord
Hey Jord,
I would assume it would be 7 nights from your Friday.
My partner's order states he should get 'x' amount of additional nights during Easter and Summer holidays until his daughter is 5 years old at which point she would have 7 nights with him each time she has contact during Easter and Summer.
So when she is 5 he should get in total a week in Easter and 3 weeks in summer.
Look back over the order and how it is worded but if i were to assume from what you have said i would say it would be 7 nights from Friday when you collect your son and he would go back on Friday (evening).
Thanks
It is a tricky one, if you took the weeks holiday on a week that didn't include your weekend you would get the 7 days. I would try and negotiate extra with the mother, or take your weeks outside of your weekend contact in future.
I wouldn't 'assume' anything......Holidays are usually extra time, but if your weekend happened to fall during your holiday, then you would have to try and reach agreement with the mother on whether your 'weekend' can be tagged on as additional days.
This is a common problem that often leads parents back to court to resolve so I would try your hardest to reach agreement and also use common sense.
I've seen a situation for example where the non-resident parent insisted their weekends should be in addition to their court ordered holidays during the six week break & this meant the child would only have one weekend with their resident parent and wasn't able to go on holiday with them either. When it got to court, the judge told the non-resident parent off because in their opinion the child needed quality holiday time with both parents.
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