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Hi, I really wanted some advice as to how to support my partner from dads who have been through the trials of fighting for contact with their children. My partner has two children, to two different mothers (some years apart), and both mothers have left, stating they do not want him to have contact with the children. There has, as far as as I know, been no particular reason given for this (no DV etc etc), but both women have moved to different parts of the UK, well away from where we live.
My partner goes through periods of depression about the lack of contact and relationship with his children, understandably. My position is that I feel he should be going through the courts to gain access to his children, but he seems very passive and hopeless about this, and doesn't like to talk about it, therefore, I don't pursue this issue, feeling it has to be his decision. However, I do find this hard to understand, perhaps because I have a good relationship with my ex-husband, and we have flexible, child friendly arrangements as far as our children go.
I simply don,t know how to help him - does anyone have any advice? Or can anyone help me understand the situation from his point of view?
thanks in advance
Hi There,
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The only way for your partner to gain access to his children would be to start the court process, the start of that would be mediation, this is now required before you can apply to court, if the ex's won't attend or they can't agree then the mediator will sign the court application to apply to court.
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The decision has to be hos though, If he won't consider court then there isn't much you can do apart from be there for him during the down times and remind him that you would be there for him and support him through the court process if he decided to take that route.
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GTTS
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