[Solved] help!! very worried for my grandaughter

I'm sorry to hear your dad is very ill.

I think this will be a SS referral and from what I can gather they are used in child protection/child in need cases and their purpose is to try and avoid care proceedings and to get the family working together to find solutions. Here's a link to a factsheet that you may find useful

www.nspcc.org.uk/Inform/research/questions/family_group_conferences_in_the_child_protection_process_wda68725.html

It might be a good idea to write a list of questions and concerns ready for the meeting on Tuesday and also take notes as this will help to remember the important points raised.

Thankyou,NannyJane,
I am actually looking forward to this, They even said that at the main meeting(Thursday I believe) my grandaughter will also be present, I just know 100% that she will say... "I want to go to your house, small nanny"... cos she always says it, and loves coming here.
The sister also messaged me to say she feels really bad cos of what happened. anyway, onwards + upwards,

The sisters got some front! Have you asked her why she snatched your granddaughter in that way? She will be at these meetings, perhaps you can ask her then! Good luck.

Well, had the 1st meeting with the family conference lady, She said my grandaughter is classed as 'child in need'!!! but there is potential for this to deteriorate to child protection case!!
was meant to have family conference meeting today, but it had to be postponed as my son has not seen any of the info(SS reports etc) The meeting now planned 18th July(she wanted do it on 3rd July, but I am away, said son could go alone) but the mothers entire family, 2 sisters + partners, Mum etc are going. Not good against 1 person alone. Anyway, my son told them still going for custody. but awaiting the SS reports to use in court.. Not sure what to expect from this family meeting. Anyone ever been in this situation?

Also the sister has told us the bf is back there 🙁

Not posted for a while, visitation been ok with grandaughter. i however feel that recently things have got worse as in the mothers care for my grandaugher!!
I have very little faith in SS and don't know where to go from here!!
There seems to be a new soc worker every week.
Grandaughter is 5 now, is barely ever at school attendence 64% since sept... Her mother is constantly asleep in bed and locks bedroom door with her + gd in, Gd told me that she has bounce on the bed to wake mummy up cos she needs toilet... last 2 times I've collected her for our visit, The child answered door(mummy in bed). but have found out today from Nanny no2(maternal nan) that Gd has been letting herself out front door when poss and walking herself to other Nanny's house with the 2 dogs. (it's 5 mins away) But [censored] its crazy,,, We don't live near.. Why are SS not doing their job

This situation been going on for a while. Although we have gran daughter very often, we don't seem to hear of the bad things.
A new social worker has been appointed and A "CHILD IN NEED PLANNING MEETING" happened on 29/09/2015.
however, as there has been no improvement since last year, SCHOOL attendance 61%. Hearing checks not followed through. and lots of other issues'.
My son and I attended this meeting, along with the maternal family(who ha v also had enough). We told them every concern we could think of. This is now probably going to escalate to a Child protection meeting..
My son just wants his daughter out of there. He is applying 100% for custody. What order do we apply for please

You'd be applying for a child arrangement order, but have you discussed this with Social Services? You normally need to go through mediation first, and this isn't going to be of any real use in your case, but if social services can back an application in any way, that might be worth pursuing. Hopefully others on here with more knowledge of the system will be able to add advice.

Thankyou, I have just been on the phone to Coram legal advice. We have told social services our intentions. Am pretty sure They will back us. Think their reports should be enough. The school are very concerned about the child, we have had numerous meetings there. I can't see Mediation being of any use because things will never change(Social worker said the same Told us to seek legal advice and that it would probably be granted... I hope so

I think there's a section on the C100 form that allows you to indicate that because there is a risk to the child that mediation isn't appropriate.... Section 13b or 13c on page 17 of the form might be a possibility. 🙂

so nervous about handing in forms and getting it wrong as the respondent lies all the time. can't afford a SOLICITOR. spoke with Social worker today.there's already lies being told about last visitation with granddaughter.. I have proof that no lies on our part..
Feel sick to my stomach over this... it's the hardest thing ever had to deal with..
Never had much faith in SS. but I do in this new Soc Worker..

Good luck with it - hopefully the new social worker will help your argument.