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My ex and I split up over 5 years ago now, Since we split up I have had my daughter every weekend bar the odd occasion when my ex has needed to have her. My daughter went back to her mum's after the Christmas holidays as usual this year but she was a bit upset cause she'd missed her mum a bit. Now my ex has decided that I'm no longer allowed to have my daughter every weekend it's going to be 2 weekends out of 3.
Well that was the case until 30 minutes ago, I was made aware by my sister that my ex had posted a picture of my daughter on Facebook with a ludicrously short hair cut. I called my ex to ask why she'd not consulted me before getting the cut done. She was more interested in finding out who had told me. I have since received a message off my ex saying the following. "You cannot comprehend how f**ked off i am right now that your snitchy family and their snitchy friends have gone to you within 5 minutes before i told you. I'm done with all of you b*****d c**ts! Well done to them cause i want nothing to do with any of you if i can't trust you! F**k the agreement Chris! F**k you and f**k your sister and her f**king friends. You can see her every other weekend and that is final!!!! I have never been so disgusted at anyone!
So that's where i stand, I don't know what do do so like the title suggests.....please help!!
There are many on here that can give advice on contact arrangements, but I have no experience of this. I would suggest that this appears to be a battle of wills between you and your ex. She seems quite volatile and it will not help if o react in the same way. What are your daughters wishes? Why was she upset?
My daughter was upset because i'd had her since Christmas Day until Sunday the 4th of January and she missed her mum, i don't normally have her for so long.
I don't know what my daughter wants, I have no way of contacting her other than through my ex who won't talk to me 🙁
First and foremost do not reply to any of her messages keep them all about your daughter and be polite if you do, you could end up in a whole world of [censored] if react angry to her.
You need to try and talk to her may be write her a letter and tell her how you feel and try and get contact back on track, if not then mediation may be worth a shot and if that fails you could always go for a child arrangement order through court to get contact set in stone, you do have options so try not to worry 🙂
Slim is right. Try putting it in writing first and then the next step is mediation. Court should be avoided whenever possible but mediation is mandatory before being allowed to apply.
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