[Solved] Help regarding school pick ups

Hi There,
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I think I'm right in saying that as you have a court order then it would probably need to be written into that order that someone else collects the children, if you ex wants to be difficult the she could stop contact as you aren't collecting teh children.
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I think you would need a variation order to cover someone else collecting the children.
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GTTS

Hello NothingElseMatters,

If you are not on "talking terms" with your Ex wife and it is not written in the Court Order that someone other than you can pick up the children, I can well imagine your Ex not accepting your suggested arrangements and that it could cause further strain on your relationship with her, possibly affecting the children. Added to this, I question whether the school would allow the children to be picked up by someone other than yourself particularly if their Mother objected. I'm assuming you are talking of the days when change over takes place?

After change over has taken place and whilst in your care for the stated period in the Court Order they need to go to school then, I believe, this is a different scenario. At such a time when staying with you (but not at change over), I believe, you have the authority to allow your children to be in contact with whoever you choose as long as there are no safeguarding or welfare issues regarding the people involved. However, the school would possibly need to be informed of who was collecting the children and also may be influenced by their Mother's opinion. The Mother may dislike your arrangements and cause further difficulties for you.

I empathize with your situation as my Son knowing he would possibly need a "stand in" occasionally, nominated two people when in the court room, his Ex vehemently refused to accept one of the people mentioned but accepted the other. The judge summoned the person who was acceptable to the Ex to enter the room, enquired if they were prepared to do the change over to which they replied "yes"and it was then written in the Court Order.

Your reasons for wanting to nominate a "stand in" are fair and reasonable. With there being no communication between you and your Ex wife, I personally would return to court to request decisions be made and included in the Court Order so that you are confident in what you can or cannot do.

Please note, I express my personal opinion, I am not legally trained.

Hello
We are in the same situation. My son has a child arrangement order in place that was designed so all handovers would be from school, meaning my son picks his son up from school on his days or drops him at school in the morning. When he is at work, I collect him (nan), this has worked well for 14months. Because the school holidays mean he may need picking up from her home, my son emailed her to say I may occasionally be picking him up from her home, presumes this will be ok with her and the handover will be civil. She replied she will always insisted son should stay with her if my son, his dad is at work. Obviously we don't want any friction in front of our grandson, so my son raised a specific order to address this and other issues,. On her court statement she said the original court order states that she must hand child to his father for contact, not me. The directions hearing was last week, nothing resolved. Final hearing is end of April. Hopefully this will be covered off then, the courts appreciate that my son needs to work. I'm sure her parents provide childcare. We've tried to say, it's normal, it's what families do. It's all about controlling everything for her.

Hopefully the court will see that she's just being obstinate for the sake of causing problems, and not what best for the child, and give her a telling off.