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My partner moved from glasgow to live with me in England in March. He has a 6 year old daughter who still lives in glasgow with her mother. My partner and his ex separated when their daughter was 10 months old. He has always had regular contact which consisted of having his daughter every Tuesday and Thursday for dinner and having her alternate weekends. As he lived with his parents the contact has always been there. When he relocated the contact arrangement was kept the same. His daughter is very close to her grandparents and continues to go to their house on the agreed days. My partner travels up when it's his weekend to see his daughter but had recently started a new job that occasionally prevents him from travelling. We have asked his ex if his daughters grandmother could bring her down to us to visit us on these occasions so she's no missing out in time with her dad. I was introduced to his daughter in September after I'd been with her dad for 18 months. She's gets on great with me and my 3 year old daughter. However my partners ex is refusing to let his daughter come here to visit. What can we do to enable her come here and visit us?
Any advice is greatly received.
Hi there
It's a difficult situation when there is such a distance between your partner and his daughter.
Usually I would recommend mediation as a first step to try and reach agreement, but that might not be workable in the circumstances. Perhaps your partner could take two or three days of his holidays and travel up to Scotland for some mediation sessions...it's worth considering and would be well worth it if successful.
The other option would be to apply to court for a contact order, but this can put a huge amount of strain on the relationship between separated parents. Your partner would have to apply to a court near to his ex and any goodwill that he and his ex have would most likely disappear if he took her to court.
Hi There,
Firstly I have removed your partners daughters name from your post, it is best to try and keep names away from the forum in case your partners ex stumbles accross it and it causes isses.
I do agree with Mojo that mediation would be the best place to start but understandable with the distance that will cuase some issues, but may be worth looking into further to see if any n]mediation service near his ex could block out 2-3 seesions over 2 days to see if you can resolve the issues before you look into court.
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