[Solved] Help on what to do to see my son

Wow sounds good considering all that she threw at you! I hope she doesn't get legal representation, I think it will be much easier with just the two of us but I can imagine she will. By the way what is a spips course? Is it something I could do now so as not to delay proceedings?

Yeah my ex was trying to get me arrested for DV harassing her ect but I completely cut her off no communication what so ever if she did manage to get me done for anything that meant she would get legal aid and get represented, that was one of the best things I could of done is cut her off completely it avoided all sorts of [censored], the spips course costs £150 and you can do it off your own bat but you'll still have to wait for your ex to do it if it gets ordered by the court then it costs nothing, they might not even order it so it's best to wait and see, you can't really rush the system it is a ball ache you have just got to go through the motions I'm afraid just do what the court ask and promptly and you will be fine don't worry about what your ex says or does just concentrate on yourself and your actions and keep it all child focused 🙂

I see mate, so as it stands she won't be entitled to legal aid? I am just trying to put together a file and diary of everything that has happened over the years. i don't know what depth to go into things as i am guessing the judge won't be interested in her conduct in the past?

I don't know how it will stand the fact that I have been away to Afghan as well, could she not use that against me? Her conduct while i have been away has been terrible to say the least.

The past does help to build up a picture, though a diary kept at the time is generally better than recollection of events (unless there is evidence).

Are you in the army? If so, then going to afghan is not something you had a choice over, and presumably she knew that was an option in the first place.

I am in the Territorial Army, or Army Reserves as it is now known. Mobilisations are not compulsory, if I had really wanted not to go then I could have applied for an exemption.

I do have a small diary compiled but not overly in depth, I will be looking through all the messages/emails since we broke up to see if I can build a better picture. I don't want it all

They have cut back on legal aid now I'm sure there has to be blatant DV to get it thats why my ex has played the DV card all the way through but it back fired on her as they questioned why she never reported one incident to anyone ever despite nothing ever happening anyway I've not even raised my voice to her it's comical really.

I wouldn't worry to much about compiling evidence keeping diaries ect as it is all historical and the courts are more interested in moving things forward they generally wont be bothered about any allegations after the c100 was submitted and they won't be concerned with anything over 3 months ago really.

Your ex can make up all the BS she wants and caftwats will probs believe her and put them in their "reports" but the courts are not stupid they have seen this a billion times before, try not to get to hung up on allegations ect it's a waste of energy just do your researchand plan your attack for court and build a good case for yourself 🙂

Thanks mate, you mind if I private message you few questions?